Should I Change My Holiday Plans

[CasaRosas1]

I will try and keep this short and straightforward if I can.

My Aunt has a holiday home abroad which I spend the month of August in every year. My cousin bought a house in the same community last year. This year I stayed in his house for 6 days before I moved into my Aunts in August as usual.

My cousins sister stays in my Aunts house for two weeks in July every year. Next year she plans to extend her stay by staying in her brothers house too.

Anyway she told me to book my dates for my cousins house ASAP for next year as she had already requested dates. I text my cousin who said yes you can have the dates and I will put you in the diary.

Yesterday his sister text me saying she would like her mil and sil to stay in her brothers house for the dates I have already confirmed. They travel together every year but stay in the same house as my cousin. Obviously now that there's another house they want to stay there.

I rang my cousin who owns the house and he said, it's first come, first served as far as be was concerned. He then said if it suited me to change my dates that was fine but not to put myself out.

DH thinks cousin requesting the house for her in laws is a CF.

I don't want any bad feeling. If I do change dates it will also cost me significantly more as I need to find alternative accommodation.

I think it’s a big ask to be the priority across both of these houses for what sounds like several weeks of the summer.

If it’s not inconvenient for you, just change the dates.

If I was the owner of these houses and being dragged into drama over who was staying, I’d probably stop bothering to let people stay at all.

The owner says first come first serve so there you go. They've all stayed together before they can do so for this year and plan ahead better next year

Hi x

Sorry I've already booked flights and looked around at other accommodation but it's not within budget at such short notice so I can't move my dates for x.

(If you want to be really nice you just saying going forward next year I'll pop you a message to see if your inlaws are staying before booking)

There's no issue with my Aunts house in August. That never changes.

Seems like a very confusing setup moving between houses. The MIL and SIL usually stay with the cousin so that is what they should be doing again. You coordinated the dates and it is inconvenient for you to change. End of.

I would just say you can't afford to change plans.