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To be panicking about DC’s employability post uni?

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NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:18

DD is going into the final year of an Anthropology degree (might get a first but probably a 2:1) from a top RG uni. Has done a Fine Art foundation year. Always worked part time since finishing A-levels (Maths, English Lit, Art), first as a barista/front of house/waitressing, then as an after-school nanny during uni.
She loves working, is highly responsible, great people skills (and people judgement) and quite numerate/commercially savvy. She is a great kid and would be an asset to any team. But… she hasn’t had a single internship so no “relevant” work experience (didn’t get her act together after first year and a long recovery post an operation for a sporting injury after second year) nor does she really know what she wants to do after graduation. She is definitely not pursuing the classic investment banking, Bain/BCG/McKinsey, accountancy, law routes.
I am now feeling highly anxious and helpless as I don’t know how to support/guide her. I did the classic Tier 1 strategy consulting, MBA, corporate M&A so I am spending hours each week helping my friends’ kids who want to pursue this path (mock case studies, mock interviews, CV reviews) but am at a complete loss re how to help my own. I feel that I am spiralling. This is not helped by my being involved in graduate recruitment at my work – CVs I see are all full of Economics/Management/Sciences degrees, multiple internships/work experiences/summer schools – they are highly structured and tick all the boxes (to an extent where I can’t differentiate between them). My DD wouldn’t stand a chance on paper.
Sage mumsnetters, please reassure me that she can get a job without internships and with a “soft” degree? Does she stand a chance with graduate schemes? Should she even bother applying? What potential career routes she could explore?

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TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 05/02/2025 06:00

Quercus3 · 05/02/2025 04:44

She'll be fine!
My husband did what he will admit was a nonsense degree (following his passion - nothing as sensible as anthropology!) at an ex poly. He works very hard though, found employment, worked his way up with no help or connections and now earns good money and has good future prospects, too.
I work in conservation and it's brilliant. A joy to go to work each day and do something I enjoy even though the wage isn't brilliant.
Graduate schemes aren't the be all and end all.

How is a 'nonsense' degree defined and by whom? The point of a degree, and in essence, what emplyers requires, is that it proves you can apply yourself to work, can express yourself and marshal a cohesive argument.
Sometimes a 'nonsense' degree is the perfect preparation for a job.

Oblomov24 · 05/02/2025 06:33

I think Op has been given quite a hard time on the thread. She obviously just cares. Ds1 is in a 4 year course at Notts; but most of his friends are only on 3 year courses obviously as more the norm, do finishing, and they are all really worried, he says.

FarmGirl78 · 05/02/2025 07:58

Genuine question - where does healthy support stop and over- involvement begin?

Somewhere around the point of her mentioning law several times and you talking her out of it because YOU think it would be boring.

Let her live HER life.

AlertCat · 05/02/2025 08:15

I need to accept that it might means tough consequences for her. I find it difficult to accept. It’s either I keep bankrolling and become increasingly frustrated or stop bankrolling and potentially watching her living in a bed sit/struggling financially.

There are ways of cutting living costs- a lot of people in my area live on boats. You can have minimal monthly outgoings this way- no standing charges, no water bill, no council tax, just a boat licence and insurance, and savings for maintaining the boat. For someone wanting to follow an unconventional path, this might be a good way to go at least for a few years. The community where I am is also quite supportive, my impression is that this tends to be true wherever you are on the waterways.

Ethylred · 05/02/2025 16:19

TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 05/02/2025 05:56

She is definitely not pursuing the classic investment banking, Bain/BCG/McKinsey, accountancy, law routes

Classic for whom? Anthropology graduates? The 'great and wonderful RG' graduates?
How snobbish some are about schools and universities. Most employers require someome with the knowledge to do the job they have applied for, who is able to work in a team (where appropriate), have ideas, and be keen.
No-one really gives a flying f### about the university attended, 'RG' or otherwise.
I worked in an area relevant to my degree for a while, but have had an eclectic, interesting and happy career, ending in a completely different field. So yes, your child is very likely to get a job she wants/likes, even if it is with a 'soft' degree. Please don't compare her to others, or just because you are immersed in this post-grad world.

No-one really gives a flying fxxx ... that is deluded.

Jsjsjsan · 05/02/2025 16:42

Ethylred · 05/02/2025 16:19

No-one really gives a flying fxxx ... that is deluded.

I know at McKinsey, Bain, BCG they have a strong Oxbridge bias.

Yes you can get in without going to Oxbridge if you go to a decent RG. But probably won't get in if you go to a "poly". But anthropology at Oxbridge would be good still.

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