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Aibu to seek an ex-pat community as I want to move somewhere English speaking?

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Lose6pounds · 03/08/2024 07:08

I live in Ireland and the weather gets me down. I want to move to somewhere with better weather but I would prefer if it was mostly English speaking. I would consider Cornwall or south England in general.
I think the weather in London is fantastic but I find it huge and exhausting and really expensive.
I would prefer somewhere mellower but also with a community that was a mix of nationalities. I was also considering France or Italy. I don’t like Spain. Does anyone have any ideas?

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NomenNudum · 04/08/2024 11:23

Switzerland is not that easy to move to on a whim. Sonewhere in the EU would make more sense.

NomenNudum · 04/08/2024 11:31

^^ that is if you have Irish nationality, which you may not now you have said you are an immigrant in Ireland.

Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 17:36

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I think immigrant and expatriate mean different things and people can be both. They have left their country so they are expatriated (from their country of birth ) and are immigrants in the country they migrated to.

Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 17:41

Lose6pounds · 04/08/2024 00:08

Wow mumsnet is a rollercoaster. Thank you everyone so so much for all the replies. They are really helpful. I love the idea of Switzerland. And the Dordogne. I’m going to check them out. And maybe Austria too.
I work online. And I love languages. I will definitely learn the language of the country- I’m one of those people who leans please, thank you, good bye on the first day of my holiday. I already speak Spanish, French and some German. That wasn’t my point, I don’t want to live (again) somewhere where I’m the only stranger. I said “I would prefer somewhere mellower but also with a community that was a mix of nationalities.” I didn’t say the ex pat community however they are very friendly usually. I’m not so interested in an immigrant culture because immigrants typically work extremely hard and are busy raising their kids, I’m seeking an older crowd and a mellower vibe. I’ve been an immigrant and now I want something else. Is that allowed?

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Dordogne sounds good then ( îd look south dordogne near Sarlat or bergerac for the hotter weather) . If you already speak a foreign language it’s easier to learn a new one or improve on it in my experience . Good luck !!

Whale80ne · 04/08/2024 21:03

"Expat" is usually used as shorthand for a short to medium term economic migrant on an income significantly above the local average and also above the average income in their country of origin.

Economic migrants are usually planning to save money and return eventually to their country of origin or move on to opportunities in a new country at some point.

I think permanent (rest of your life, and the generations after you too) verus medium term (5-10 years, or maybe retirement but no expectations that your children and grandchildren will be taking citizenship) residency is the difference between economic migrants of whom expats are the rich subgroup, and immigrants.

Immigrants usually intend to stay permanently in their adopted country and seek citizenship, and largely expect their adopted country to be their children and grandchildren's country too.

Economic migrants are usually looked down on for taking on jobs the locals don't want to do for lower than the local average income and living in cheap areas where locals don't want to live (but put up with it because their income is higher than the average income in their country of origin), but expats see themselves as different solely because they (or the spouse or parent they are living with) can command a higher salary or have a higher passive income than the local average income and afford to live in expensive locations the locals can't afford to live in...

samarrange · 04/08/2024 21:08

Psychoticbreak · 03/08/2024 14:11

While calling themselves ex-pats instead of immigrants which they are.

Would keep away from Spain anyway what with all the protests at tourists.

Would keep away from Spain anyway what with all the protests at tourists.

Yep, stay put in Liverpool or Sunderland. No danger of being squirted by a water pistol there. Or being shouted at for being foreign.

Lose6pounds · 04/08/2024 21:58

Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 17:41

Dordogne sounds good then ( îd look south dordogne near Sarlat or bergerac for the hotter weather) . If you already speak a foreign language it’s easier to learn a new one or improve on it in my experience . Good luck !!

Thank you. Yes I think this is a good idea. Having looked into it today I think other posters are right telling me Switzerland is not feasible. And Switzerland is also much more expensive than France.

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Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 22:09

Lose6pounds · 04/08/2024 21:58

Thank you. Yes I think this is a good idea. Having looked into it today I think other posters are right telling me Switzerland is not feasible. And Switzerland is also much more expensive than France.

If you do decide to try it , if it was me Îd make sure I was in a village with a a couple of shops / restaurants / chemist/ a gp not too far away especially if you’re getting a bit older :) Also remember it can all go pretty quiet in the winter !

Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 22:19

Whale80ne · 04/08/2024 21:03

"Expat" is usually used as shorthand for a short to medium term economic migrant on an income significantly above the local average and also above the average income in their country of origin.

Economic migrants are usually planning to save money and return eventually to their country of origin or move on to opportunities in a new country at some point.

I think permanent (rest of your life, and the generations after you too) verus medium term (5-10 years, or maybe retirement but no expectations that your children and grandchildren will be taking citizenship) residency is the difference between economic migrants of whom expats are the rich subgroup, and immigrants.

Immigrants usually intend to stay permanently in their adopted country and seek citizenship, and largely expect their adopted country to be their children and grandchildren's country too.

Economic migrants are usually looked down on for taking on jobs the locals don't want to do for lower than the local average income and living in cheap areas where locals don't want to live (but put up with it because their income is higher than the average income in their country of origin), but expats see themselves as different solely because they (or the spouse or parent they are living with) can command a higher salary or have a higher passive income than the local average income and afford to live in expensive locations the locals can't afford to live in...

I think the dictionary definition of expatriate is a person who lives outside their native country. So to the UK Brits who live abroad are expatriated citizens. Those same Brits are then immigrants in their adoptive country. Thats my understanding anyway !!

LightDrizzle · 04/08/2024 23:10

I have always thought of an expat is being someone living temporarily in a country as an employee for a company or institution that has placed them there. I am an immigrant as I have moved permanently; in my case for lifestyle reasons.

Many U.K. and Irish people living in Spain and Portugal describe themselves as ex-pats when I would say they are immigrants but I think some people think immigrants are the brown ones who are to blame for everything going to the dogs so as white ubermensch they must be something else and alight upon the word “expat”.

Whale80ne · 05/08/2024 05:34

Laparisienne123 · 04/08/2024 22:19

I think the dictionary definition of expatriate is a person who lives outside their native country. So to the UK Brits who live abroad are expatriated citizens. Those same Brits are then immigrants in their adoptive country. Thats my understanding anyway !!

everyone knows that's not how the term is used and that poor migrants are never referred to as expats and rich ones are. Self styled expats also usually return "home" eventually, or send their kids to university in their country of origin.

Whale80ne · 05/08/2024 05:34

LightDrizzle · 04/08/2024 23:10

I have always thought of an expat is being someone living temporarily in a country as an employee for a company or institution that has placed them there. I am an immigrant as I have moved permanently; in my case for lifestyle reasons.

Many U.K. and Irish people living in Spain and Portugal describe themselves as ex-pats when I would say they are immigrants but I think some people think immigrants are the brown ones who are to blame for everything going to the dogs so as white ubermensch they must be something else and alight upon the word “expat”.

Yes, this too

garlictwist · 05/08/2024 05:39

newnamethanks · 03/08/2024 07:26

You must mean a different London from the soggy place we know and love. It rains.not as much as in Ireland but more than enough to make you fed up. Try S Europe.

The weather in London is so much better than the rest of the uk. I'm in Yorkshire but my laptop thinks I'm in London so gives me the weather for there. I always get a jolt of happy surprise until I realise it's the wrong location. It's consistently much warmer and drier.

Whale80ne · 05/08/2024 05:41

Also an immigrant to Spain from the UK is an emigrant from the UK - expat isn't the other side of the immigrant coin, it's become an elitist term for economic migrant worker (with the migrant worker connotations of impermanence but without the same racial/ class stigma). Incidentally lots of university educated Indian and SE Asian individuals call themselves expats and are fully integrated into expat English speaking circles, so it's more complex and class based than just skin colour IMO, though racism is certainly heavily involved!

WhatThenEh · 05/08/2024 07:27

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FanNotEnough · 05/08/2024 08:31

garlictwist · 05/08/2024 05:39

The weather in London is so much better than the rest of the uk. I'm in Yorkshire but my laptop thinks I'm in London so gives me the weather for there. I always get a jolt of happy surprise until I realise it's the wrong location. It's consistently much warmer and drier.

Yes. I moved from Manchester to London partly because of the weather. It’s hugely different. (Apart from the past rainy June..)

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