Don’t mean to sound awful and I know I should be grateful. One of my best friends has recently become very wealthy thanks to her husband’s investments. She keps saying she wants to help her closest friends (including us) with some cash as always wanted to do this.
The thing is that whilst I appreciate her lovely intentions, I do not want this at all (and told her clearly) as I find it a) slightly humiliating and b) I feel generally uncomfortable accepting money from others, infact I have never done that except small sums from my parents for big occasions (like wedding, house etc).
We have good salaries and are by no means struggling, just have high outgoings as we are FTBs in London and have childcare costs so don’t lead a fancy life but we have a solid combined income of 6 figures. She keps saying if we won’t take the money for ourselves she will gift it towards my DC’s uni fees or something and, again, I feel it’s wrong and makes me feel uncomfortable so I told her to not bring the subject up again as I don’t want her to do that (told her nicely obv).
AIBU to feel this way??