I think when you aren't that attracted to someone, they pick up on it

[Mildredpettigrew]

Since January I've had 2 dates with separate people (one of whom I already knew prior) where I didn't find them that physically attractive at all.

I decided to give a second/third date a chance as I've had exes who I didn't find attractive initially.

However, I got the no spark text from both.

It was disappointing but I'm wondering if they picked up on this? There are men I see around my office and I think 'wow, he's gorgeous'.
I wonder if I went on a date with one of them, there'd be a mutual spark?
It won't happen because they aren't single unfortunately, but I can dream.

I may be totally wrong , but I feel like there's something in this.

I admit on both occasions I was a little blindsided by the rejections from them, as they'd seemed into me.

When you’re attracted to somebody, you’ll be flirting, you might touch them, try to create little bits of physical contact during the date, there would usually be some proper kissing at the end of the date. If there was none of that on your dates then yes, it will have been pretty obvious you didn’t fancy them, and most people don’t want to pursue something where there’s only luke warm interest at best on the other side.

You’ve only had two dates with two people. It’s perfectly normal to not be attracted to the vast majority of people you meet. Sometimes it will be you not fancying them, sometimes them not fancying you. It’s a numbers game.