To feel a bit like an object?

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My boyfriend was over tonight, we have different work schedules so he was going to go home instead of stay over.

I said he'd better get going as I need to sleep soon, as I'm up earlyish, and I knew he'd want to stay up later.

We were then back on forth about whether he should just stay. When deciding he asked "do you want to have sex?" as in, the prospect of sex would sway him more towards staying.

He then called me on the way home and said that though he loves spending time with me/being around me, it is an inconvenience coming over after work as it means he doesn't have his nighttime routine etc. and when he gets home he has little time to relax before he needs to sleep.

I'm a bit miffed off. But well aware I could be overreacting?

I think it was okay for him to ask if you were interested but the complaining afterwards when you said no would put me off. I'd suggest he leaves earlier in future so his routine isn't upset and he gets to relax.

Thank you.

I also meant to say, we have already had sex earlier!

It seems as he was not impressed overall he made the comment

Thank you.

He did say that if we were going to have sex or not, factored into his decision.

basically he wants his cake and when it didnt happen he got the pickles so to speak

I would be more than a bit miffed off, I get that working patterns make things difficult, and everyone needs sleep, but he has had sex with you once, and then is hoping for a second time, and when you are wanting to just go to bed, he is disgruntled that he has been inconvenienced because there is no sex on offer now, and he could have gone home earlier and done whatever he he normally does (relax without you it seems). Unless the sex us mind-blowing and you can be as transactional as him about it, I would sack him off. This is not a partner who wants to spend time with you. Sorry xx

Yuk. My answer would have been "no". Any horniness I might have felt would have shrivelled up and died at being asked the question.

I'd feel like an object too and start to wonder whether he's with me for ME or with me for regular sex.