DD13 plays soccer and is on the first team - not county or national level but they would be close to top of their leagues. She’s athletic but not ultra competitive. DH is mad about sport, incredibly competitive and growing up it was his life.
He manages DDs year teams and gives a lot of time and energy to it. DD goes to the vast majority of training and matches (prob because DH is pushing, not because she is Uber dedicated)
They have come back to training early and this week 2. Tonight one of her pals parents decided to take a gang swimming and for pizza in the good weather which is due to break over the coming days. My DH said no but I said he was being unreasonable and she should be allowed go. I appreciate training is a commitment but I feel that there are few evenings when the girls can really enjoy the summer and missing one training session is not a huge deal - missing a match would be different. That’s flat out no.
DH is furious , I said look I’m sorry but I think that there should be some spontaneous summer fun and the rest of the year is school and training at XYZ time.
Was I unreasonable - I feel awful now. DD was going anyway but I made the call as I didn’t want him getting pissed off at her. He tends to and that just doesn’t help keep her in the sport