To worry nursery will report to social services?

[hap10]

And if so will they tell us they’ve done it?

at the weekend we strapped ds into his pram which hadn’t been used in almost a year. He went straight to sleep in it (he’s nearly two). It was hot. Anyway when we got him out we realised the straps had been tight around his hips and there were two red marks especially on each bone hip. I didn’t think more of it as the redness faded fast and he didn’t seem bothered. But tonight I collected him from nursery and when changing him when home I noticed two small ish but obvious gold coloured bruises on each of his hips that you can see when changing his nappy. I don’t know whether to raise this with the nursery so they know but then again i feel like it makes me sound crazy to bring it up now when it actually happened on Saturday but the bruise is only just there? I am really anxious about it all.

@summerdazey yes it was

@EbbandTheWanderingHearts thank you, it was more the place that it is that has worried me so much. Thank you for replying to my post x

Don't justify yourself OP, we all make mistakes, including the person who made this unhelpful, judgemental comment when it's obvious you feel bad enough.

@orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements thanks. I felt terrible at the time so it’s not been nice going over it! We try our best but obviously got it wrong on Saturday

We all do, don't worry. I'm sure you're doing your very best, just like the rest of us.

My 3 year old climbed into bed next to his dad (my husband) who was fast asleep. Husband rolled over and knocked 3 year old out of bed, he smacked his face on the bedside table and had a big bruise.

I told his pre school the next day and had to fill in an accident form and that was it.

He's also had to be taken to A and E when he was little because he bashed his nose on a wooden piece of furniture, threw up and had a black eye. Poor little guy.

We never got questioned about any of it, by anyone. Accidents happen. I would just tell the nursery, they'll probably get you to fill in a form and that will be it.

They won't report it to Social Services. If they've seen them, they would have mentioned them and at worst, they've not said anything but will have noted them down. All perfectly normal procedure to follow. Let them know if you haven't already.

Nurseries should be filling out accident/incident forms and stating on there whether the accident/incident happened at nursery or home. If a parent tells them of a mark etc, they still fill out a form out to say, "Mom said" to cover themselves too.

Goodness, are people's nurseries really reporting every bump and bruise? My DD (2) spent a week with her big cousins running about the garden, jumping off climbing frames, rolling down hills and falling off slides, and went to nursery the Monday after literally covered head to toe in bumps, bruises and scrapes. I just thought it was a sign of good times.

Sorry to hear this has made you feel so anxious, it's not nice. But surely every single one of us has had to wrestle a squirming toddler into straps at some point (even those making the judgemental comments 🙄). I work in an organisation which has social workers on staff and we care for seriously ill children and there has to be a systematic pattern or a real cause for concern before acting. I'm sure it will be ok. I wouldn't even mention it to nursery if they haven't already and draw unnecessary attention to it. If they ask you can explain x

Oh OP Please don't worry. As pps say, if they see marks that bother them on a child they'll ask parents, and yes, if any reports are made to social services by nurseries or schools they have to tell parents (except in very rare cases where the danger to the child is such that alerting parents would be dangerous in itself.)

Also please don't be afraid of a social services report. Ss are constantly sorting through a pile of minor concerns to quickly find ones where children are in actual danger and need help, a quick check that your child is safe and you don't need any support is nothing to worry about.

Hi @hap10 ! Ex-Early Years teacher here. If the nursery had any concerns they would (9 times out of 10) speak to the child's parents/carers first. Most things like this have simple explanations. If they felt the concerns were too great to approach you first and went directly to child protection it would be likely that SS would intervene straight away and would want to speak to you before the child was back in your care. So I think you're probably worrying unnecessarily. :)

I know disabled children whose parents have died and they have been left for weeks in literal squalor before social services could get their act together and find them foster care and get involved. I really don't think you are even going to be on their radar so don't worry.

Shocking ? In what way ?

At my setting we would have to speak to you about it first (or any unexplained mark) and get your account on a home accident form, which goes in your child’s file (really common, nothing to worry about) and no we wouldn’t report to SS for that so I highly highly doubt it.

They get the parents to fill the forms out and sign them otherwise if ever needed in a safe guarding case it couldn't be used. Anyone could write anything if that was the case.

I honestly wouldn’t worry. They would ask you about it before reporting and will record on an accident/incident form. If it’s a one off, any practitioner with any common sense will just make a note and keep an eye out for repeat occurrences or other concerns.
just mention it at drop off tomorrow, it will be fine.

Don't justify yourself OP, we all make mistakes, including the person who made this unhelpful, judgemental comment when it's obvious you feel bad enough.

You're weirdly hostile when I only asked how it happened and how OP didn't notice. If it's a genuine mistake, there's nothing to worry about.

If they had any concerns they would raise them with you, they would not just phone social services, that’s not how it works. Honestly.

I would mention it to them next time you drop dc off.

Yes I'm well aware. Staff complete the forms and parents sign them.

I didn't add the who fills the form in parts and can see why you thought I was wrong and why you were eager to correct me.