Do you have to be a pain in the arse sometimes?

[Zillabride]

I'm currently 2 months away from getting married and feel completely done with it.
Our suppliers are all being pains in the arses
We are having our wedding in a place that was significant to us but is a few hours away.

We were due to meet with 3 suppliers on Tuesday, booked leave etc
First time physically meeting all of them

One has stopped replying so I expect will say they now can't do it
One has now cancelled (after chasing them because although they had said yes to meeting Tuesday at 7.00 they didn't set a place)
And the other one is "checking if it still works"

We emailed well in advance. All agreed. I sent an email to remind/check all okay on Tuesday

Should I be really chasing suppliers all the time? I feel like I've been trusting them to do their own thing but now worried they will do this on the wedding day.

Don't even get me started on the venue who adds a few extra charges every time we speak

How awkward are you meant to be? Or are you meant to politely just go along with it?

Sometimes you need to be a pain in the arse.

Or elope.

I can highly recommend very tiny weddings!

I eloped. 2 witnesses, bought little individual cakes from the local bakery and had a picnic. Happy day, no stress, more money for better things (holidays)

Being assertive, not being a pushover and standing your ground is often required

The trick is to say what you need and just stop talking

If they try to argue back you just stand there and say nothing

You just stare back because you've said what you need to

And just wait

Sadly I'm two months away. Deposits down, mostly paid off so no eloping here!

In your case though OP

I personally would send an email requesting confirmation and state that if you don't hear back by a certain date and time ie this Friday by 3pm
that you will consider this to be a cancellation on their part and that you request your deposit back immediately

And if they don't deliver on their promise you will take them to the small claims court

Which you will then do

Be assertive