Exh and I split nearly 4 years ago and divorced earlier this year. 2 primary aged dc.
Both my mum and his dad have had health problems lately - my mum is on a cancer pathway and his dad has some long term health issues. I told my exh a bit about my mum to ask if he can step up a bit more with the dc - at the moment my mum helps out with after school childcare which if she needs surgery etc she won't be able to do, fortunately exh and I have come to an agreement about how certain things need to change in September.
However exh has taken this as a sort of green light to tell me all about his health. Tonight for example I text him the address of the holiday club the dc go to so he can pick them up tomorrow. He asked how my mum was, he goes on to tell me all about his issues, his wait for a hospital appointment, and generally over egging the situation in my opinion. Last week when he knew my mum in hospital was recovering from a procedure he sent me several messages saying how the nhs is ridiculous because he hasn't been given an appointment yet.
I find it quite insensitive but also I have a lot going on in my life as it is and I don't have the headspace to offer advice and sympathy to him. I feel like it's quite inappropriate for him to keep doing this especially as he has had a girlfriend for over a year now? But maybe I am being horrible. For what it's worth I have had my own shit to deal with but I don't talk to him about every problem I have.
AIBU and if not how can I tell him nicely to please stop confiding in me? I have just ignored the messages every time but it keeps happening. I know unless I do the softly softly approach he will stop responding to messages about the DC's arrangements.