To decrease contact with acquaintances?

[CriaBel]

There's a few people in my life whose company I don't enjoy so much any more. They haven't done anything wrong, but I feel I've little in common with them now - they're more acquaintances than friends and we got to know each other hrough a once-shared hobby that none of us do anymore. I'd prefer to spend the little spare time I do have with friends I'm close to.

Has anyone ever reduced contact like this? I tend to be a people-pleaser and think I'm just keeping in touch out of habit.

Just don’t respond to their messages immediately. Start saying - “Sorry, can’t make that” when they organise get togethers. It’s not difficult

Thanks. I'm always afraid of upsetting people, having them think bad of me.

Personally I think we have some friends for specific times in life. Life changes and we move on, the initial connection lost, we no longer have things in common. The people who remain friends often have continued things in common or deeper connections.

spend time with those that bring joy into your life. (And don’t feel bad about letting the people who zap your energy go).

Totally, as the saying goes: friends for a reason, friends for a season and friends for a lifetime.

That makes a lot of sense, thanks.

I've started to do this also. I don't have loads of free time to keep in contact with everyone I've got to know over the years.