Looking for a moan and some advice.
Im a single mum and have 2 ds (almost 3 and 5 months). Dc2 was an easygoing newborn but since the last month has become a lot more high needs. He cries whenever I put him down, fights his sleep and has started to scream whenever he’s in his pushchair or car seat. As soon as I pick him up he smiles and is content. He also cries whenever I try and put him in his sling/baby carrier. I’ve switched his pram seat to the upright one but he hates that too. He also seems to be going through a sleep regression and is waking up almost every 2 hours.
When he was a newborn, I would take them both out daily and really enjoy our time. Since he has started screaming whenever we go out (I still need to go out for ds1 sake and to do food shopping) I don’t enjoy it at all. Ds1 still often has intense tantrums and is very tall/heavy for his age.
I’ve started to feel like a failure. I also have to deal with both of their dads who have been awful in the past. Ds1 dad does have him every weekend but ds2 dad sees him as he pleases at mine so I have no child free time. DM died when I was a child and DF works full time abroad so no help with childcare.
Has anyone been in a similar situation as a single mum with two young dc? I love my dc dearly but just feel constantly tired. I wake up and count down the hours to fall asleep.
Any advice appreciated!