To think there's more than this?

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Hello! Really I'm looking for inspiration from those who have wondered 'is there more to life than this?' And done something about it.
What did you do? Did it work out?

Background... driving ti work this morning I wondered if there was more than doing a job I kind if like, living in a house like, but dont love, with a husband I love, but who isn't very adventurous in the bedroom..

Surely this isn't it? Or should I just accept I'm very lucky?

Let me know your stories, good or bad

Life is what you make it

OP, if you're struggling with "is there more than this", you need to make more enjoyment for yourself and see what's in between the job and the house. As for your husband, have that conversation you'd like to explore more.

Calmness and contentment has a lot to be said for it.

I would look at it from the opposite way and consider how lucky you are to have a home, husband you love and a job - unless there is a big back story - many people would love to have what you have. Everyone goes through phases like this, usually when life is quiet and there are no dramas - make the most of it !

You kind of like your job - is there a promotion you could work towards / training you could do for another qualification. If not this what job do you want that you could retrain for i.e. currently a book keeper but always wanted to be an accountant - perfectly possible

You love your husband but could be more adventurous - have you spoken to him about this ? Suggested what you would like or do you rely on him and say nothing but wonder how it could be different ?

You like your house - what would make you love it ? Redesign of the garden to create an area to entertain / another bedroom - extend into the loft. / a new kitchen design

Is it just that you are in a familiar routine / rut ? Book a holiday , something you don’t usually consider - go on an adventure

What did I do :

I studied, got a professional qualification and got a new job I loved not liked.

Completely redesigned my garden, redesigned my en-suite and redecorated - we didn’t want to move, too convenient for work !

Made sure we always had at least one holiday / weekend booked and in the diary so we had something to look forward to. Made sure we went to at least 3 new places a year ( either in UK or overseas)

We sold our house and took a 6 month break. We took our then 2 and 4 year olds to nz and Australia. Sister lives in nz and friend lives in Australia. Dh quit his job whilst I had a career break.
whilst we were away, husband interviewed for a role and got a 20k increase on previous job. We also bought a new house in uk to come back to (a doer upper).
Hands down the best thing we’ve ever done. However, I should add that we were bloody lucky things landed they way they did (we returned July 2019).
I think it cemented my mindset that the vast majority of what we do in this life is a choice. Don’t like it- change it.

Thanks all. You are all right, only I can change it. I was just curious really as to what people have done when feeling like the same.

Yes, I've spoken to husband, it's been an issue for our whole relationship (20 years), we are mismatched that way. I've mostly accepted this, we have a good sex life, just a bit predictable.

With my job, I had children young and have spent 25 years putting others 1st. So now I'm a bit clueless as to.what I want to do. I tend to end up in roles where I feel under valued, I need to learn to speak up for myself.

The house is an on going project. I love what we've done, and where we live. It just isn't a long term house as our children are flying the nest soon.

I think really, I'm just itching to move on to the next phase of our lives. Not wishing my life away, just ready for a change, which will come in a couple of years.

And yes, I need the next holiday booking in. I love exploring new places, getting away, and not having something planned is bothering me.

Thanks again for all your advice.