Baby in nursery

[VerityBlueSky]

Just feeling really bad that my ten month old girl is going to be starting nursery at the end of this month.

She's going to be in five days a week, 7.30 until 5.30

I feel really guilty. How often do other people put their babies in nursery for this long each week? I don't know anyone who has or does, they're all for like three days

I have no family near by and need to work for the money.

It’s quite common in my area / people I know. If you need to work, you need to work. Baby will be fine. Don’t feel guilt. We’re doing 4 days a week from about same age, fortunately we can both do compressed hours to free up the 5th day.

The babies in my nursery are so very loved and have the best time. We invest so much on making sure they are given every possible opportunity and it really is a very happy place. Theor parents work and collect happy, tired, much loved children at the end of the day.

you can spot the babies who have been woth us from the baby room when we're getting ready for school too: very confident, social, secure and great talkers!

please stop beating yourself up for choosing regulated, experienced and qualified people to care for your child whilst you work! You're setting a great example and giving them a lovely opportunity

Please stop beating yourself up. I also have no support and have to earn money! My LO has always been FT at nursery - he loves it there. I hope MN is kind to you as there's a lot of people who are against nursery.
One of the biggest contributors to poor outcomes for children is poverty, and working hard to provide for your child is not a bad thing or something to feel guilty about x

My son went in 3 days / week at 1 year. Just this morning he literally ran to his second day at pre-school. He loves it.

All the people who work there genuinely love the kids. They care, and I'm so happy leaving him in their care.

The mum guilt is real, but give it a go

You have to do what is necessary to keep body and soul together ♥️

She will be fine. I worked in a nursery as a student, mostly in the baby room, and we really loved the babies in our care. Nursery workers will never replace you or your bond with your daughter, but they will love her and care for her well and give her happy, interesting days.

It might take her some adjustment but she will settle in and all will be well.

DS was doing three full days a week from nine months; he went up to four days when he was 15 months and will be full time when he's 27 months. He loves nursery and gets the opportunity to do loads of activities that I wouldn't be able to provide!

Please don't feel guilty - if you have to work, you have to work.

Just wondering how it's going for you and your baby OP? Mine will be starting soon and when I went in for induction there were a few upset babies which broke my heart.

Please don’t feel guilty, you have to work! Your little one will be fine once they’ve settled.

My DS went once a week from 10-4 from 4 months old. I hated this but absolutely no one else nearby who could have him and DH worked. Then from 9 months we gradually increased his days and hours until he was going 5 days a week, 8-6pm (I went back to work full time). He’s now 2.5 years old and started a new preschool back in May. He goes 5 days from 7:45am-5:45am. I have to work so it is what it is. He’s really settled and obviously very used to a nursery environment and routines now.