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To put 5yo back in pull ups

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MadBear · 30/07/2024 21:49

I'm a mum to DD8, DD5, DS5 and I gave birth 2 weeks ago. I'm a single mum, I split with their dad in December and we've only seen him a handful of times since. He hasn't asked how me or DD are and hasn't met her. I'm exhausted.

DS was potty trained at 3, he was dry but had some poo accidents and still does occasionally if we're out as he will only poo at home (he's fine with wees when we’re out). Just before DD was born he started refusing to wear pants and would ask for a pull up, I would give in when getting him ready for school for instance as I was heavily pregnant and had to get my other 2 ready and to school on time. He’d come out of school clean and dry so he had still been using the toilet.

It's still a battle to get him to wear pants, today I took them to the park and I took my elder 2 to the toilet and asked DS, he said he didn't need to go but 5 minutes later he'd wet himself. He had a tantrum because we had to leave as I hadn't got any spare clothes. He had more wee accidents and one poo when we were home but he was laughing and refusing to get changed so I don't believe they were ‘accidents’. I've tried telling him he's a big boy now so he doesn't want to wear pull ups all day (he wears them for bed still) but he says he isn't a big boy, he's a baby etc. I've been giving him (and my other children) plenty of attention since DD was born but this has been happening since she was born. She's constantly feeding so I'm not sleeping much then I'm getting up at 6 because of one of the DTwins wakes up, they share a room so one wakes the other and I'm having to get up with them so they don't wake the eldest or baby.

WIBU to just put him in pull ups?

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MadBear · 30/07/2024 22:22

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Confrontayshunme · 30/07/2024 22:25

He wants to be the baby again. Just keep reiterating that he is a big boy and he wears pants. Try to get someone to watch baby so you can spend one on one time with him doing big kid stuff. He will adjust eventually.

BusyMum47 · 31/07/2024 09:21

Confrontayshunme · 30/07/2024 22:25

He wants to be the baby again. Just keep reiterating that he is a big boy and he wears pants. Try to get someone to watch baby so you can spend one on one time with him doing big kid stuff. He will adjust eventually.

I agree. ⬆️ It must be incredibly hard & you must be exhausted but don't give in to the temptation of going backwards. He's just having a hard time adjusting - it'll pass. Are there any little 'helping' type jobs you can give him to make him feel a 'big boy'? Lots of praise & even a little bit of 1 on 1 time every day will work wonders.
Good luck - you've got this! 👍

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