Hey all. Long time poster, name change for this.
I’m looking for a new job. I’ve been offered a remote role, by a company based in Paris ~ however they have made it clear they would prefer me to move to Paris and be in the office 1/2 days a week. In return, they will up the offered salary, relabel my role from ‘head of’ to C-suite, and offer a chunky signing bonus/relocation help. It’s a rapidly scaling company, and included the possibility for this role to move to C-suite within 12 months in the job ad anyway, so it’s not a huge surprise.
I’d normally throw this back and start my search again, but I’ve found myself imagining life in Paris (I’ve never lived abroad) and am really considering it. I never did Uni/Gap years and now really regret it. I’m asking for advice here because my family are very dramatic and all hell will break loose if I mention this before I’ve made up my mind 😂
Additional things to consider:
- I have DS, 4, who doesn’t speak French. After crunching the numbers I could swing a private international school, or intensive lessons. He’s very outgoing and popular, and finds it easy making friends who don’t speak the language when we’re abroad etc.
- I don’t speak fluent French, but I do okay. The company will pay for french lessons, and operates in English anyway (most of the team is distributed across the EU)
- DS dad is not on the birth certificate and doesn’t want to be involved so this isn’t a consideration. We’re close to my family, but they are not massively helpful re childcare etc, I rely heavily on outside help and this would continue.
So… am I being unrealistic? If you’ve made this kind of move, please tell me the pros, cons and things to think about!
YABU - don’t move, you’re crazy!
YANBU - do it, you only live once!