To have bought dh to kids party

[Cleo2628]

Feel really awkward now.
6th birthday party at a house last weekend (very large house & garden so not cramped) invitation said drop off or stay but host invited all 3 of my children ages 6, just turned 4 & 1. Brought DH along as 1 year old can be a terror and one of the party activities needed 1:1 adult supervision, particularly for the 4 year old.

other guests there were a mixture of drop offs or had 1 parent (mum) stay. One solo dad. But all were 5/6 year olds with no siblings.

was it odd we came with DH? I feel extra awkward as I’ve text host today thank you etc and she hasn’t replied! But she is a bad texter!

You should've texted the host in the first place to check it was ok.

No harm done I'm sure, but possibly looked a bit piss takey.

Not at all, it is marvellous that you have been so thoughtful about your younger one. Don't worry about lack of text, she will really just be busy and a thank you does not need a "thank you for your thank you" and all that. x

It's fine, you were bringing three invited children so it made perfect sense for both parents to be there to supervise them. You say space wasn't an issue, so I highly doubt anyone even noticed! You're overthinking it

If they invited all three of your DC then I think that's fine. If the others didn't have siblings invited, then are you friends with the parents? Because that also makes it ok in my book.

Two parents with a single 6yo would be weird, but an extra adult to handle young ones is just sensible.

You did nothing wrong and definitely not piss taking. I'd of just assumed DH was there to supervise the 1yr old so you could have a chat to the other mums.

loads of my kids parties have had both mum and dad attend, and we've also gone as a couple to some too- it avoids the bickering of who has to take them if we both go, and it guarantees someone to talk to so I'm not sat in a corner. I'd definitely take the husband if I had 3 young kids!

Not odd at all! I wouldn’t think anything of it if I was the host.
You’re overthinking it op. You sound like you’re doing a great job. Don’t worry.

It’s fine, no one would care.

Totally fine and not even remotely a piss take (odd comment!) I wouldn’t worry at all.

I’d hope it wasn’t piss taking - there were crudités and drinks out for adults but to be honest we barely touched any as we were talking it turns running after 1 year old.

I know the mum but dh has only met her briefly 2 or 3 times, we’ve both met the dad briefly a few times. Our 4 year olds go to nursery together but they also have 2 other children the same age as ours so whenever I meet up with the mum, all kids have “a friend” so I think that’s why she invited all 3. If that makes any difference!

It wasn't remotely piss-taking - quite the opposite, you made sure your children were properly supervised. There's always one poster who feels the need to put the boot in.

Why would it be a piss take?

Children's parties are awful - adults only attend because they have to. No-one is going to resent him for attending the party, they probably thought "poor sod, I bet he was hoping to get the afternoon off the kids".

Fine but if it was me I'd have dropped the older two and done something on my own either the one year old!

Can’t think why on earth it’d be piss taking? You had 3 kids there? Even if you didn’t, sometimes both parents like to attend - that’s certainly something I’ve experience having thrown lots of kids parties and have partaken in when dh and I both went along to a party. Total non issue.

I always disliked the extra parents rocking up like a family outing.
They wouldn’t be invited again.

I know very few woman who can’t be without their partner - stokes me as odd

I'd not give it a second thought, I often share the pain by making DH come along 🤷‍♀️

She opened the door and invited you all in - she had provided adult food and there was lots of space. You are overthinking. It was fine.

I'm sure they wouldn't want to be I voted again if these are your strange views.

I think it’s great when dads turn up or both parents come along. There are some dads I have never seen, not at school pick up/drop off not at parties etc. I’d be quite approving.

Honestly with three kids I’d be glad to have the extra parent, I would assume you were being sensible about looking after the small ones and would be glad to have you both.

I don’t get this, it often means that it’s the woman doing all the boring kid shit by herself.

@Greytulips *invited

Of she invited your 1yo as company for her 1ho she was probably happy that the 1yo was properly supervised!

What a bizarre attitude, you must be very miserable in your life. OP, it's totally fine, especially given you were bringing 3 kids. Pretty sad that all the other parents who stayed were the mum.

Why would it be piss-takey to bring another adult??

Another child, sure. But another adult to help supervise? Surely that's a good thing?

I would have thought if anything it would be a relief that there was not an unsupervised one year old running around the place.