I don’t share the same opinions as my family at all, but I’d probably recommend anyone who has the slightest confidence issues regarding their body image to probably swerve this thread.
It all comes from my Grandma who would make comment on all members of her family regarding their weight. Either they needed ‘fattening up’ or ‘stay off the biscuits’. Ironically she thought the ideal size for a woman was a size 12.
My mum makes it her identity that she’s slim. It’s tiring how she will constantly fat shame, talk of how slim she is, how she stays slim, talk how everyone mentions her size, no such thing as natural body shapes, make comment on anyone eating more an ice cube… She’s knows I don’t share the same views. She tried correcting herself the other day when she made a comment on a lady wearing short shorts then quickly corrected herself to ‘good for her to have the confidence but some people would say what I just said…’
Shutting down my mum is somewhat easy when she fat shames or talking about unhealthy eating habits but it’s so ingrained into my other siblings. They both have eating disorders and warped sense of their body image - both constantly go on how ‘fat’ they are bearing in mind they’re both XS. Won’t eat the burger bun or will order a starter.
As an adult I l’d say I’ve got a healthy relationship with my weight/food - I’m happy with my body but I would say it’s far down the list of my accomplishments - as long as I’m healthy, I’m happy. I’m worried that having these warped opinions around my now DD (who is only a baby) makes me feel uncomfortable at best. I want her to wear trousers because it’s cold outside not because she’s shamed into thinking they’re just for size 6s.
As it’s so ingrained into the family I’m not sure how to do the overhaul. I really don’t want her growing up in this toxicity.