Another (!!) MIL one

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my Mother in law, sees our kids about 4 times a year, even though she lives 3 miles away. She sees nephews all the time. But she now hasn’t seen my kids (10&8) since June 1st. She popped over to collect raffle prizes I had for her tombola she was asking for prizes for. That’s the last I heard from her.

I’ve just been on fb and she’s shared a pic I took and shared on fb myself today (so she’s re-shared it) of a picnic I took the kids on this morning. Que lots of comments on her pic “aw you’re such a great granny” “you do so much” etc etc.

I want to conment saying how she basically has nothing to do with our children and hasn’t seen them in months or offered help (even though she offers help to bil’s kids)

drives me mad!!!!

Just comment saying “oh we had a great. Would be lovely if you could join us next time MIL, the kids really miss seeing you.”

@Sunnydiary has it spot on

Don't comment. Hold your head high.
Does your DH visit his mother?

I’d comment “would be lovely if you would join us some time MIL, it’s been what, nearly 2 months since you’ve seen the kids?”.

I'd comment "be lovely if you could join us next time mil, the kids are missing you after not seeing you for two months."

Why wouldn't you correct her post? She's a bloody liar!!

Jesus, don't send passive aggressive messages on social media.
SHE didn't post look at me/having a great time with grandkids
You will come off looking like a loon.
TALK to the woman. Or, get DH to talk to her.
As mentioned above, how often does your DH visit HIS mother? Why do you expect her to do the running.

She shard a photo. She didn't post that she was out with her grandchildren

To be fair, the way it was posted insinuated she was there

the Husband tries to have nothing to do with his family.
So he says just to ignore it

If your husband doesn't seem bothered about a relationship with his mother and his children then why are you?
And why would MIL go out of her way to visit if her son doesn't bother with her?

Don't comment on the post. Not unless you want to cause drama.

Because she’s made it blatantly obvious over the years that dh is nothing to her, and his brother can do no wrong, this is the lady that openly says that dh was a mistake and ruined her.
bur he still tied with her and is desperate for her approval and love. Hence why we always still try.

You do not need this awful woman in your lives.
Grey rock.

Can you not respond on her post something ike ‘come along and join us next time?’

How often do you take the kids to visit her?

I agree with the PP who said she didn't say she was there at the picnic.

Not quite sure how posting a photo 'insinuated she was'.

limit what you post in future so she has no pictures to steal.

Why does no one ever complain about FIL's on this site! 😂

There must be some bad ones out there too.

I don't say this lightly but in this case, follow DH advice here

Off to google Grey rock! Thanks!

Oh I have a FIL like this, I have my social media set so that he can't see a single thing I post. On Facebook you can set it so it's just how you post going forward.

Man, I’d have to make a comment like ‘Shame you weren’t there, been a while, maybe you could come over more than three t8meime a year?’. Cos I’m a bitch.

Of course the MIL insinuated she was there.

Why else would she have lots of comments on her pic “aw you’re such a great granny” “you do so much” etc etc.

But she didn't write the comments?

And to be fair, even the comments don't say she was there.

Change the privacy settings of the photo so she can’t see it, and it won’t appear on her profile.