For him to keep asking about my ex?

[Pinkboxglitter]

Been seeing a guy around 8 months or so.
Every time I see him he asks me questions about my ex.
Such as...where did you go on holiday? Did you want to have children with them? What restaurants did you go too? What did you like about them?
I wouldnt usually mind the odd question, by my ex was very physically and emotionally abusive, it took me 3 years to leave and was very painful. He knows about this but constantly keeps asking, I find it all really triggering and upsetting. When we were on holiday, he kept asking questions and I said sternly, please can we stop talking about my ex whilst I enjoy my break. When we were flying home, he kept asking again.

How do I handle this? Why on earth does he want to know all of this? Even when I have made it clear I dont want to talk about it.
Part of me feels like leaving him based on this and other factors too.

Yeah I think you handle it by leaving him. He's not listening to you and respecting your wishes, that will likely filter into other areas of life and get worse. It's definitely red flag behavior.

If you’ve told him very clearly but he’s not stopped, then it’s not a good sign. If there are other factors too I’d be tempted to cut my losses.

Nope. This suggests jealousy or possessiveness born of insecurity. That'll manifest in all sorts of horrible ways down the line.
Please reconsider this relationship. You'll never be able to answer satisfactorily..there'll always be more .

He sounds intrusive and bullying. Definitely LTB material.**

Imo it won't be long before he's using any information about your ex as a stick to beat you with.
It's normal to be slightly curious but most people don't want the details of a new dps ex.
Chuck this one back I'm the penis pool

My abusive narcissist ex used to do this. Constantly. Then when he got drunk he would throw it back in my face. Definitely get rid ASAP!

Dump him.

Dump him pronto.
If you answer all his questions you are adding fuel to the flames. If you refuse to answer questions you are hiding something.
You can never win with this type.

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If you continue this relationship, which I don't think you should, then if he asks anything again look at him very sternly and say

"Look, I've told you more than once: I don't want to talk about it, and if you are ask me once more we're finished!"

This.

I find it all really triggering and upsetting.

That is precisely why he is asking. You've gone from one abusive man to another. Apparently this happens a lot so it's advisable to do The Freedom Programme before dating again.

You've gone from a physical abuser to an emotional abuser which is why you haven't really seen what he is doing. Ditch him, and do NOT take him back no matter what he says, he's continually overstepped your boundaries, refused to stop asking and is totally disrespecting you. He's not a good 'un.