If visitors stay with you for more than a week…

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How is your Dc/dc’s behaviour?

Does it change?

My Dd, 6, can be a feisty one, but just had family with us for two weeks, they’ve gone and she’s calmed right down (shouting and being very rude last few days)
Does your child’s behaviour change with visitors or time spent with grandparents/family?
Always think my parents see the worst of my Dd, in a way they wouldn’t if we lived down the road from them and saw them for a few hours every week.

Yes yes and yes! I could’ve written your post myself. My parents are local but with in-laws now we keep visits much shorter and it’s much less stressful. My kids are really unsettled by the change of routine/ “new” people in the house/ by our additional stress probably too!

@Montydone Do they start playing up
and being ‘Naughty’ ? It’s a nightmare!

Yes and then the in-laws criticise our parenting, rather than acknowledge it would all work better if they stayed in an air BNB!

Yes. My kids are feral when the GPs are around. I just let the GPs deal with.

You’re all far far better people than I am. We have family to stay a lot as we don’t live locally to any of them, but three nights is my absolute maximum. The children’s behaviour is fine, but I become grumpy and snide and badly behaved after too much hosting even the people I Iove most!

Same here. I don’t host my DM anymore not even for 2-3 nights. Last time I hosted her I had just given birth, she expected to be served, left guest room in a mess, fed older child sweets and told her to keep it a secret and complained she wasn’t allowed to hold breastfed newborn enough. No thanks! No more guests in my home, we have the space but I don’t have the patience or energy.

OP sounds like your DC finds it overwhelming too. I can also only cope w people in my home for a limited amount of time.

Two weeks is a long time for visitors and for dc to be on 'best behaviour'. Do the visitors need to come for so long? I would struggle hosting anyone for that amount of time too.

Reading the title I thought it was going to be do you change the sheets! Normally they're pretty good. We had it when they were very young 1&3 and then 6&8, we may have missed the worst phase as they were fine.

There's the old saying that after three days house guests, like fish begin to smell in 3 days