Ex partner is up to something. Feeling uneasy.

[sagegreeny]

Ex husband left for the other women two years ago completely out of the blue. Literally walked out and dusted his hands of responsibility. Since then he has been a total detached awful pig of an human and impossible to coparent with. A man I do not recognise after the 10 years we was together. Barely seen the kids and only been interested in himself and running around after the other women on holidays.

The last few weeks it’s like he has had a personality change and is being suddenly reasonable and polite. Like the man I once thought I knew. Wanting to see the kids, suddenly making time. He was in the family house with the kids for two days, whilst I was away with work and he actually tidied and fixed things. I honestly do not trust he is up to something and feeling incredibly uneasy?

For context he is living with his parents. Solicitor stuff is messy and ongoing. Kids have yet to meet the other women she lives the other end of the country.

What’s going on? I preferred him being an arse. At least I knew where I stood. I honestly feel worried.

It’s either crashed and burned (his relationship) or he’s buttering you up for 50/50 custody or he wants to sell the house…

However he behaves he cannot control you. Your choices are your own. It doesn’t matter what he does, you have agency. Remember that. Let it wash over you.

His relationship is going tits up. It's the only logical explanation I can think of.

Either he has realised the grass isn't greener or that he needs to keep you sweet for something or other divorce wise.

Maybe, just maybe he has realised he's behaved like a dick and been unfair on his kids.

I would hope/assume he was feeling guilty and has seen the light.

I would say that she's dumped him, and he's decided he doesn't want to be on his own so is trying to worm his way back in.

His solicitor told him something (no idea what) that has him worried and he thinks he better be nice so he can try and manipulate you later.