To say stop wishing me a good nights sleep

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When I never do as dp wakes me up when he comes to bed an hr after me and then wakes up again when he goes to the loo most nights . I go to bed 1030-11 as have work he wfh stays up late and then gets up at 830 , I have been at work for an hr by then . I just want to say ‘ stop saying that you wake me up every night ‘ AIBU ?

I think YANBU but your post doesn’t really make sense… probably the sleep deprivation!

Yeah you should tell him!

I couldn't share a bed/bedroom every night with someone who kept waking me up.

If they were saying things like 'sleep well' every day as well, yeah I'd be naffed off.

Have you a sofa bed or something?

Of course you are not being unreasonable to discuss this with your husband. You are being unreasonable if you don’t say anything about it if it’s bothering you.

If you have the space maybe consider separate rooms/sleeping arrangements. What’s the point in being sleep deprived and resenting your partner just for the sake of following social norms…

It's quite damaging for your health to sleep poorly every day, given your sleep schedules are misaligned why don't you sleep in separate beds?

I'm sorry OP. I am struggling to understand what you're saying! (And what you mean!)

Him stopping saying that won't change how well you sleep.

Tell him your problems and see if you can both solve them. He could probably get ready for bed in the bathroom then tiptoe in, drink less in the evening so he doesn't need the loo or just be more aware he's waking you.

My dh is similar but I use earplugs and he does what he can to not wake me, generally works OK.

Personally I'd love my own room but can't see him going for it, nor do we have the space.

Yep defo recommend using ear plugs as @HangingOnJustAbout recommends

I sleep badly and wake whenever I feel any kind of movement so use a weighted blanket to help me sleep and not get too disturbed by DH leaving earlier for work etc. Game changer for me.

I agree with this. Or my husband and I have an agreed upon bed time because we like to sleep in the same bed and if he comes to bed late and wakes me then I'm awake for hours so we met in the middle.

If at all possible separate rooms are a life saver

Or even a marriage saver

I recently told my husband to stop saying “hope you have a good nights sleep” to me before bed as well, we have a 3 month old baby and I do the night wake ups/feeds, it was irritating me being told to have a good nights sleep when I knew I’d never get one, almost felt like a cruel little joke (although I know he absolutely did not ever mean it that way, he was genuinely just being nice) 😂😂 so I know how you feel OP!