Hi dear ladies,
I am Grace, I had been a victim of bullying by my ex’s monster brother, that monster was extremely rude and abusive, he would get abusive for trivial things and would go out of track, he would pass rude comments and at one time the encounter was extremely extremely abusive, him screaming, yelling loudly for 25 minutes continuously. My ex was spineless and never took stand for me, I lived in this relationship because of him and for my little daughter who is now an adult and finally to worst my ex ended cheating on me.
my ex had an extra marital affair and would impregnate his girlfriend many times and to hide the affair they both terminated the pregnancies. 3 years after his affair when he got caught then after denying he accepted his wrong doings later and moved out to live with his girlfriend who got pregnant again. My daughter who’s now 22 used to hate his father and supported me that time but now has accepted her father and his choices. I support my daughter in every way as a good mother but it hurts me badly from inside as I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused in the marriage and more over my ex had made his monster brother to bully me and all his family members would watch as mute spectators.
I filed for divorce and now I am divorced but
I feel bad I couldn’t do much to protect my self esteem when I was heavily bullied as the ex’s horrible brother in law would scream showing fingers while talking and grunting like a beast. His behavior was extremely maniacal. I am not able to forget that bullying and horrible things and seeing my daughter go to that shitty family hurts me but I don’t stop her it just feels that she’s going to my culprits. She’s now dating a guy and plans to get marry in 2-3 years and I have all of a sudden started to get flashbacks of horrible abuse I have endured thinking that those monsters will be there and I have to see them. I told her not to invite his horrible monster uncle and she agrees but she told me if dad invites him and he showed up I won’t be able to do anything.
please do not judge based on assumptions and looking at the horrible abuse I endured, I was traumatized and I am thinking to avoid mental trauma should I have a separate function for my daughter and avoid the wedding if his shitty family will be there?
please help by providing suggestions or advice 🙏