If you only ever wanted one kid and ended up having two... any regrets?

[Bbqnights]

I've also multiple questions like this the last few days so sorry to anyone who feels like this is repetitive...

Unplanned second pregnancy and really panicking. Looking for stories where everything turned out ok.

I was definitely apprehensive. But, you reach the stage of no return and I just went with it. My DH was really keen on having 2 and it didn't cause us any financial stress.

This is exactly my situation too!

Mine are still tiny though🤣

Honestly no regrets. It's hard but not as hard as going from 0-1 Imo. Seeing them together brings indescribable joy.

Thanks for all the positive stories. I want to want this pregnancy, if that makes sense. I think my main worry is what another person will do to my relationship with DD. She's 2 and my absolute world.

I wish I had my second one closer together to my first, I have a larger age gap. When the gap is smaller the existing child adapts after b cause they were an only child for a shorter period.

Start talking to her about a second sibling now and watch your relations role with her before her sibling comes along, that way you both have already somewhat adjusted.

Good luck!

My DD1 is 2 and DD2 is four months.

DD2 was unplanned - I was open to another but DH wasn't, to the point DH had his head in his hands shouting "fuck" and totally went off on one when I told him.

I offered to go to the clinic with him to discuss options, but in the end we decided against it.

It IS hard on my relationship with DD1 at the moment while DD2 is so little - Dd1 wants to play and do things with me and my hands are tied at times. BUT - I can see a light - and I think as soon as DD2 can sit up / interact a bit more, she can be involved in playing with us etc, and that will get a bit easier.

I can already see little moments of them interacting, and it is the best thing ever.

I've spoken with a few friends with similar age gap kids who are a bit further on (now 2 and 4, for example) and they say it's the best thing ever, the kids have a constant playmate in each other and family dynamics are well worth the initial juggle!

Good luck 💐

We planned on 1. Had 3 rounds of IVF, it eventually worked and it was twins. Twins are quite hard work but it is lovely seeing them play together and interacting. They have quite different personalities. I do wonder how much easier it must have been having one. They wouldn’t have any cousins from either side so it’s good they are twins as they would be the only children

We decided to adopt and were adamant we’d only adopt one child, which we did (we adopted a baby). We were both besotted and felt our family was complete. Ten months later we were informed a full sibling had been born and social services asked us to adopt the sibling to keep them both together. We were so conflicted as we’d not wanted two and felt our family was already complete. I really didn’t think my heart had any more room for another child and worried our first child would never forgive me. That said, neither of us could bear the thought of them being separated and the sibling going to another family - deep down, we knew they should stay together.

Fast forward five years and we’d have it no other way. They really are the perfect package (and I say that despite the fact they have complex needs and can still on occasions fight like cat and dog). I love watching the way they entertain each other, eavesdropping their bonkers conversations , the way they’ll ’gang up’ together against us and how they experience the world through each other’s eyes. Hearing them belly laugh together is the best thing and makes up for the ridiculously long days of having two under two in nappies, neither mobile.

From a practical perspective going from 1 to 2 is much easier than 0 to 1, especially if they’re close in age. I’m so, so glad we did end up with two (though never in a million years would we do it all again!).

You don’t split your love in two when you have a second OP, your capacity to love just doubles. I didn’t believe it until I held my second baby in my arms

I keep hearing this, and I'm sure it's true, but like you say it just doesn't feel possible at the moment!

I have two dg & ds - the age gap is 4yrs, they get on fine. I had always wanted two dc.

My other point is once you & dh are no longer here (a morbid thought) if you have another it will be company for your older dc in later life.

OP? How did you get in? Exactly same situation my 4 year old is MY world.

what did you decide to do? I’m in a pretty similar situation right now!