Should he have the cheek to make me feel like this…. Who is right/wrong?…

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Right ladies after a friend and I had discussions about drinking alcohol we started debating what’s better or worse…

I consider myself a lightweight compared to friends- if I had the same amount as them, I’d be dying off the next day, whereas they’d be fine.

I don’t drink through the week, I often drink on a Saturday and Sunday (not ever week though) and not streaming drunk- just a bit tipsy..

DH doesn’t drink as frequently as me in that he can go 2/3 weekends with nothing but when he does do it and goes out it’s awful- drinks so much he can’t remember anything, almost unconscious last time, lost his phone and one time he dropped it and had to replace screen, doesn’t know his name and address and it’s absolutely drunk - it’s awful to see, but once every 7/8 weeks…though there because none of his friends are available for that carry on as they have partners - don’t assume he wouldn’t do it more frequently if the situation arose…

I never drank much until covid and now I enjoy a few drinks on a weekend- again never through the week and I some times feel DH is a bit judgmental but I think what a fucking cheek, you getting pissed most weekends for the last 20+ years…..

Hes got a cheek to make you feel bad when he sounds like a total embarrassment.

drinks so much he can’t remember anything, almost unconscious last time, lost his phone and one time he dropped it and had to replace screen, doesn’t know his name and address and it’s absolutely drunk - it’s awful to see, but once every 7/8 weeks

I genuinely couldn't be with an adult who did this as I would have zero respect for them.

I love a drink and always have, but adults acting like a teenager who's just had their first drink, is a complete turn off for me.

They'd either have to kick the booze altogether or I'd kick the relationship.

I’d leave a husband who drank like yours. A one off and he learned his lesson we could just have a conversation and move past it, but a repeated pattern and I would be gone.

The hypocrisy! It’s blatantly clear that your husband shouldn’t drink alcohol at all and he has absolutely no right to pass judgement on your drinking habits when he’s obviously a messy drunk who shows zero respect for you by coming home in such a state.

Id be telling him that if he does it again he can pack his bags.

I couldn't handle someone doing that multiple times in a lifetime never mind a year. It wouldn't be their perceived judgement I'd be taking issue with

I must have missed the part where he said/did something to indicate he was judging you.

Hope you are not considering having kids with this man-child

In what way is he judgemental ?

He can't make you feel anything, you are responsible for your own feelings.

I would be looking at us both cutting down and managing alcohol better possibly switching to low alcohol and if he wasnt willing to do that then I would end it with him, personal alcohol limits should have been learned as a teen and young adult. I wouldn't want to be with someone who gets so drunk they forget their own name. He'll start urinating in the wardrobe next or the bed and expect you to start cleaning it up.