Long story short- at the start of the year I decided to go nc with my father due to him being a raging narcissist and historically him and I clashing. When he started the behaviour on my own children whist in his and my mothers care(mother enabling this behaviour) enough was enough. Children were upset, not wanting to go there. It was affecting my mental health and my relationship with my husband as it was often the root of any arguments we had.
I said my mother could come to us (2 mins up the road) to see us and her grandchildren if she wanted and she was welcome.
basically she does not visit, drops birthday cards in thru the letterbox, and blames me (via letter) for taking the children away from her and creating a ‘house of horrors’ that the children don’t want to visit. Blaming my fathers behaviour on him having been unwell. He’s fallen out with and no with every member of his family over the years, everyone.
I’m not budging as I need to know my children are safe wherever they go and I wasn’t happy with them going there anymore.
I suppose I’m after reassurance that I’m not the arsehole in this. Seeing a very different, emotionally immature side to my mother that is only further creating a void. Aibu?