To be protective over DD?

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DD is a few months away from turning 18. She has recently got back in touch with an ex boyfriend who broke her heart earlier this year when he dumped her over text. He's back on the scene telling her he's passed his driving test now and wants to take her out for a drive. She's just gone out with him, despite my attempts to dissuade her. I'm worried he will break her heart all over again and I'm also worried he will be trying to impress her and drive like an idiot showing off etc (he's literally had his licence a week or so), potentially putting her at risk.
I'm lying here trying to sleep and I just can't until she's home safe😩

Am I being overly protective?

He sounds like a disaster, we've all been there. If you make him forbidden she might want him more, all you can do is support her.

Wouldn’t worry if they are dating again. The heart wants what the heart wants. You won’t be able to convince her even if it is a disaster waiting to happen.

However, your concern about having just passed his test etc. That’s fair enough. Explain to her the risks, statistics and that she shouldn’t get in the car if he isn’t responsible. Also to avoid late night drives and country roads. Also come down hard on drink/drug driving and she should neve get in the car if he has taken anything. But she’s 18, she’s an adult. Not too much more you can do

Thanks for your reply. It's just awful watching it happen. I know she's almost an adult but she's still my baby, and I hate that she's walking into something that's going to break her heart all over again 😓

@Twistybranch I did just that this evening before she left, I told her the statistics and said if he starts driving like an idiot she's to tell him immediately to pull over and let her out and her step dad or I will collect her from wherever she is.

If nothing g else, put your foot down about the car There are so many tragic stories od teen car crashes

Young people should not be taking others out just after they've passed their tests
The amount of young lads dead after trying to impress is shocking
just show her a few of the grisly reports
A misery for all

Dumping her by text is mean. This guy is definitely not a catch. I would be advising her not to entertain him a second time round. He will end up treating her badly again.