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AIBU to think he's hitting on me?

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Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 19:39

Hi, just before I go into it I'll just say that I haven't dated or even anything remotely close for years, so either i am overthinking things or have been oblivious to a co workers flirt attempts, that's the question really is he hitting on me. I have worked at my new job for a few months now and a certain guy has always made an effort to say hi and ask about my day, and recently has started asking me more questions like about my kids and who I live with etc, I tend to catch him looking at me a lot and he often winks at me, all could be platonic, then he offered to drop me home one evening after work and I accepted, all was platonic, he started to tell me that he was single etc and his goals normal conversation, the next day at work he randomly said to me "when are you inviting me for dinner then" while grinning and that's when i started to wonder omg is he hitting on me? He also made a joke about thinking about me while hes home in bed. I wouldn't mind getting to know him better but am I overthinking this? It's making me nervous at work but not in a way where I feel harassed just nervous! We are both early 30s so not teenagers but this is making me feel like one again 😊 what do I do if anything. Thanks in advance for any advice. Reposted under the AIBU thread

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Sparrowball · 25/07/2024 19:42

That depends on whether you're interested in him being more than a colleague or friend.

Are you? If you are flirt back and enjoy the excitement.

Sparrowball · 25/07/2024 19:43

If he told you he thinks about you in bed and has asked about being invited to dinner he's interested.

Sorry, I forgot to put that in my last post.

butterpuffed · 25/07/2024 19:57

He's hinted about you inviting him for dinner , he said he's been thinking about you . It's obvious he's keen on you . Do you like him ?

Errors · 25/07/2024 19:59

Ha, this isn’t even subtle. Of course he is interested

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 21:13

butterpuffed · 25/07/2024 19:57

He's hinted about you inviting him for dinner , he said he's been thinking about you . It's obvious he's keen on you . Do you like him ?

Thank you I think with it being in work and people like to joke around I can't tell if it's just flirty banter or whether he actually might like me, can't remember the last time I flirted with anyone nevermind in a work setting. I am very rusty with this sort of thing, and yes I do feel attracted to him but would not be able to show this in work 😅

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Sunnydiary · 25/07/2024 21:15

Oh I love these threads!

I am absolutely shit at flirting, but some posters are ace. So you should get some good advice for moving this forward 😍😍😍

Newbie8918 · 25/07/2024 21:27

Touch his Willy and see what he says.....

No I'm kidding. Please don't do that! But it does sound like he's flirting and seems pretty obvious by those examples but I'm just wondering, what is it that's making you think he might not be? Is he like that with other people? A general joker? Wondering why you etc?

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 21:30

Sunnydiary · 25/07/2024 21:15

Oh I love these threads!

I am absolutely shit at flirting, but some posters are ace. So you should get some good advice for moving this forward 😍😍😍

Haha! Love this...me too I can't get past eye contact 😅

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Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 22:50

Newbie8918 · 25/07/2024 21:27

Touch his Willy and see what he says.....

No I'm kidding. Please don't do that! But it does sound like he's flirting and seems pretty obvious by those examples but I'm just wondering, what is it that's making you think he might not be? Is he like that with other people? A general joker? Wondering why you etc?

Haha 😂 If I'm honest I just get on with things and anyone being Interested in me is the furthest thing from my mind, so its took me by surprise, I do lack confidence in that way I don't feel attractive enough etc, he is very good looking and never crossed my mind that he'd look at me in that way as I behave at work 😅 I dunno if he's looking to get laid or is looking for a serious thing. He works two jobs and has his child on a weekend so take what u will from that... I don't know him well enough to gauge it x
Also I don't think he's much of a joker he's more quiet 🤔 but I've never paid him much attention before when he's approached me only recently I've been chatting more with him x

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Crazykefir · 25/07/2024 22:59

Depends do you like him op. You work with him, socialise with him during work hours and take it slow. Do some digging about him with the girls at work. What's his form. Keep it light and have fun with it.

Newbie8918 · 25/07/2024 23:00

I think you hit the nail on the head there when you are questioning whether he thinks you're attractive! I don't know what you look like but he seems to think so 😂
You'll never know what he's after until you spend more time together. Go slow if it helps and gauge the situation. Navigating relationships in work, especially new workplaces, can be a minefield if it doesn't go the way you hope. Good luck though. It's not all doom and gloom. Loads of people meet at work! Happy flirting

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 23:06

Newbie8918 · 25/07/2024 23:00

I think you hit the nail on the head there when you are questioning whether he thinks you're attractive! I don't know what you look like but he seems to think so 😂
You'll never know what he's after until you spend more time together. Go slow if it helps and gauge the situation. Navigating relationships in work, especially new workplaces, can be a minefield if it doesn't go the way you hope. Good luck though. It's not all doom and gloom. Loads of people meet at work! Happy flirting

Aww thank you so much ❤️ all the replies are pointing out that it's obvious, I'll take your words for it 😊 I agree with your advice I will just take things slow see how it goes and ask some of the girls at work what he's like...slyly 🤣 I'm not going to do anything to make me look a fool at work so no danger there thank you all so much x

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Sparrowball · 25/07/2024 23:08

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 23:06

Aww thank you so much ❤️ all the replies are pointing out that it's obvious, I'll take your words for it 😊 I agree with your advice I will just take things slow see how it goes and ask some of the girls at work what he's like...slyly 🤣 I'm not going to do anything to make me look a fool at work so no danger there thank you all so much x

Best of luck with it!

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 23:09

Crazykefir · 25/07/2024 22:59

Depends do you like him op. You work with him, socialise with him during work hours and take it slow. Do some digging about him with the girls at work. What's his form. Keep it light and have fun with it.

Thank you I will that's great advice 😊

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