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To let my 9yo use my makeup

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RosieChardonnay · 25/07/2024 17:53

I have some makeup, all very natural. My 9yo is very interested in it. She will try on my (very natural) foundation, setting powder, lip balm etc. I can tell she has it on but it's so natural and she does a good job so most people would not know she was wearing it. She likes the routine of cleansing at night too. She uses my simple cleanser.
I only allow her to wear it in the house, I would not allow it at school/parties etc. I always tell her she does not need any makeup, she is so beautiful naturally inside and out. I always talk about how it's important to be a kind person and how you are as a person is so much more important than how you look etc. She has asked when she can wear makeup out of the house and I said maybe 13. I do allow a bit of nail varnish and some lip gloss now. She has a couple of friends who do wear some makeup now when going to birthday parties. Sometimes they talk about skincare together and she has mentioned brands like drunk elephant etc. I have said she doesn't need that and it's not suitable for her age.
So am I unreasonable letting her use my makeup? I don't mind too much and she is very careful with it. She enjoys organising it for me too and is very excited when I get something new to try it out. She does have some kids makeup of her own but prefers to use mine as she says it's more natural.

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NerrSnerr · 25/07/2024 19:48

My 9 year old has some make up. She'll sometimes wear some eye shadow and glittery lip gloss. She's still very much a child and does a lot of sport (she's been known to put on green eyeshadow on the morning of a comp to match her kit).

It's just a bit of fun, she isn't trying to look older and certainly doesn't look older doing it.

Moonshine5 · 25/07/2024 19:52

I can tell she has it on but it's so natural and she does a good job so most people would not know
Highly unlikely OP

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/07/2024 19:52

Comedycook · 25/07/2024 18:04

I actually I think the fact it's natural make up makes it worse than the kind of garish glitter stuff. Kind of means she's taking it more seriously. I think I'd definitely be trying to discourage this.

This. It's not expressing individuality and playing. It's covering up. Yuk.

zzar45 · 25/07/2024 19:54

Could you possibly give me more specific information about the whole host of problems this will open up?

I’ll say it, every single girl I know who wore grown up makeup at an extremely young age was overly sexualised very young.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/07/2024 19:55

Personally I think the glittery stuff looks awful on kids and I would never encourage it.

So it's all about what she looks like. A funny mask, making a face or dressing up can look 'awful' but it's play. Looking non-awful is a grown up concept. Mud looks awful but is fun.

Lavender14 · 25/07/2024 19:56

Personally I think this is fine but I probably wouldn't bother with foundations etc. But I see no harm in playing with nail polish, lip gloss, eyeshadow or glitter. I read recently that it's good to say you want to wear make up to feel fancy because you're already beautiful, the makeup is just for your own fun and enjoyment. I see nothing wrong with promoting that mentality for her.

devildeepbluesea · 25/07/2024 19:59

Quite honestly I think there are bigger battles to fight. DD is 11, obsessed one minute and couldn’t care less the next. I don’t stop her - after all it’s her face. I’ve seen so often the mystery and attraction of the forbidden.

Her skincare obsession has already waned. Hopefully the make up fad will go the same way.

SaltAndVinegar2 · 25/07/2024 20:03

I never wear make up but I don't think what you are doing is wrong.

She will follow your example rather than what you say.

If you wear make up every time you leave the house she will grow up thinking she needs it too. All the talk of she's beautiful as she is etc means nothing.

If you only wear it sometimes, that's a healthier example to set.

Emeraldiisland · 25/07/2024 20:38

SaltAndVinegar2 · 25/07/2024 20:03

I never wear make up but I don't think what you are doing is wrong.

She will follow your example rather than what you say.

If you wear make up every time you leave the house she will grow up thinking she needs it too. All the talk of she's beautiful as she is etc means nothing.

If you only wear it sometimes, that's a healthier example to set.

I'm not sure thats true. I rarely wear make-up, last time was 11 years ago at our wedding but my mum still wears makeup every day, not loads but it is every day.
My DDs went through a stage at about 10 to 14 of wearing makeup every day but it was pretty discreet. Now 16 year old wears it sometimes but not often. 18 year old never does, although both do skincare routines every day.

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