I’ve been with my partner for almost 5 years. His parents are divorced and his dad has remarried. They’ve been together about 15 years. We get on really well with his dads wife let’s call her Paula and they have done a lot for us.
Paula’s family has had very little to do with my partner and I. We were never invited to her families events etc. They would send cards at Christmas time that’s as far as it went. I’d never met her family either, until we announced we were pregnant last year. Then all of a sudden her parents and sisters wanted to meet me. We had been together almost 4 years at this point. They seem like nice people.
Anyway fast forward to baby being born and they were all eager to have a family get together so they could meet the baby. We agreed and they were really generous with presents for the baby. It was a bit uncomfortable as they just wanted to play pass the parcel with the baby. Paula actually had to take the baby back off one of her sisters when they were getting upset.
Fast forward 3 months, and we hadn’t heard off them or seen them and we get invited to a family party. I wasn’t that bothered about going but my partner really wanted to go. I agreed and it was horrendous. They wouldn’t leave the baby alone. Paula’s mum had the baby and was putting him in uncomfortable positions and when we politely asked her not to kiss the baby she went mad, saying how ridiculous it was etc. She was also going around telling everyone our baby is her great grandson, and I was a bit like you don’t even see him or have anything to do with him. I was fuming by the time I got home and thought at first maybe I was over reacting but even my partners dad said he was very happy with her.
Fast forward another 3 months, again we haven’t heard off Paula’s family or seen them. We get invited to another family party. I agree to go to give the family benefit
of the doubt. Paula’s mum snatched him from my arms. Then straightaway is kissing him, I’m going can we not. I took him back and then the sisters are shouting up that they want to hold him. We said no as he’s going through a fussy phase and we wanted to get him ready for bed. I’m going to change babies nappy and one of the sisters wants to come with me and my partner to change the nappy. Maybe she was trying to be helpful, but it doesn’t take 3 adults to change a nappy.
I find the get togethers really stressful and I don’t see why we need to be there, they aren’t interested in me and my partner just the baby when we see them. Also we only get invited to get togethers that are child friendly.
AIBU to not want to attend these get togethers again with the baby? I’m fine if my partner still wants to attend