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Is this just OTT?

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jugglesandspins · 24/07/2024 13:07

DD has just finished Year 1 at school. Earlier in the week a card arrived in the post. I knew it was from SIL because I immediately recognised the handwriting. It was addressed to 6 year old DD.

The card was a "congratulations" card and read along the lines of well done for completing another year of school. SIL then writes I know you will have done AMAZING in every aspect of her learning journey. She then writes in capital letters how PROUD I AM OF YOU and signs it off with lots of love, hugs and a zillion kisses.

Inside the card are photos of SIL with messages on the back saying love you lots etc.

Now, for context, I have a very strained relationship with SIL. I do not instigate contact with her as she has been incredibly rude to me. I just feel that the message in this card was a tad inappropriate and her trying, yet again, to get one over on me. We haven't got DD a card, but have told her we are very proud of her school report she got. When DD opened it, she asked where her card was from us.

I'm probably being unreasonable in this instance and perhaps reading into something that isn't there, but just feel the message and card is way over the top?

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FictionalCharacter · 24/07/2024 21:54

jugglesandspins · 24/07/2024 13:10

She’s previously told DD that she’s her mum so yeah the problem is me!

That's an almighty drip feed.
Have you posted previously about her telling your DD she's her real mum and doing other batshit things? If not, someone else is in the same boat as you!

jugglesandspins · 25/07/2024 06:04

FictionalCharacter · 24/07/2024 21:54

That's an almighty drip feed.
Have you posted previously about her telling your DD she's her real mum and doing other batshit things? If not, someone else is in the same boat as you!

Not me. Reassuring to know there are other batshit SILS out there though!

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AnnieE83 · 25/07/2024 07:19

FourNeedWeek · 24/07/2024 13:47

Does SIL have any kids? If so, I’d do the same for her kids but make sure the card is even larger, has a few more kisses in it.

I’d wait, but what I’d hope happens at the end of next year is that SIL responds to your daughter with an even bigger card, then you repeat again with a bigger card, etc.

Really, what I’m trying to do is just see how large a card you can push her into sending, or whether at some point she’ll just accept defeat.

It’s the long game.

Edited

Yes to this !!!

jugglesandspins · 25/07/2024 07:24

MissionRose · 24/07/2024 13:22

OTT. One of my sisters did stuff like this, my DD initially thought Aunty MissionRose was great but now she’s a teenager she finds her completely fake and far prefers her other Aunts. It’s tiresome but just ignore and try not to let it get to you.

She’s got under my skin and has been so rude I think it doesn’t matter what she does it will irritate me.

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