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To dread 6 weeks hols

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connemarailoveyou · 24/07/2024 06:28

I love my 2 children ages 4 and 6 but is it also so bad that I'm dreading the holidays? I think it doesn't help that my 6yo has a speech delay which makes life harder in general as he can ask for what he wants etc but u can't really have a proper convo with him yet

So then I'm all alone with them
In the day and it's hard. I have a rough idea of things I want to do such as parks museums etc and we going away for a week soon as a family of 4

Am
I the only one dreading it? I know that with the rainy days it'll turn into more tv screen time than I'd like but then I figure it's holidays so why not and it won't be every day

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Vettrianofan · 24/07/2024 06:32

I am four weeks in of six weeks holiday and have had some very stressful days. It's been a mixed bag. Stuff has went wrong with the house whilst covering the childcare. It can be a juggling act!

Wishing you luck to get through your holidays and try to enjoy the wee moments 😊

connemarailoveyou · 24/07/2024 06:32

@Vettrianofan thank u

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Aliceberrypie · 24/07/2024 06:48

Make a plan for each week. Some ‘at home’ times playing / tv / baking etc. some going out for free duck feeding / park / riding bikes/ scooter. Some play dates (either with the other mum staying if you get on so you have company) or with people who will then reciprocate and take your 2 for a couple of hours. Some trips to places / library / swimming / museum etc that may / may not cost money.

we had very little money when mine were little as I was Sahm - so couldn’t afford massive trips to theme park etc - but I used to look for everything that was free / low cost (local library craft event £1 etc) and schedule these in first. Would have an ongoing craft project such as making papier-mâché masks as you need to do a bit every day then dry , then paint them / decorate them etc - so really was a daily extended project.

would make a simple event into a major one - e.g. baking fairy cakes - we’d write / draw the shopping list - then walk to the shop - they’d pick up the ingredients - let them pay for their 2 items each (they can self scan / tap your card etc) then walk home - then bake / then cool then decorate. One batch of fairy cakes has kept them busy all morning rather than it being a 1/2 hour event.

All depends where you live - we are in a town and are lucky that a lot of places can be walked to. Also we’d go out on the bus as kids live that and around here only pay for adult do we’d bus to park further away with our pack up lunch etc - play / have a picnic…

even if it pours with rain - you adjust the plan and have a picnic in the floor in a different room of the house.

liberal use of timer to give yourself time to breath / do things e.g. if they want to play with the cars / set them up then tell them you are busy until the timer goes off doing the hoovering / having a cup of tea.

keeo on top of them with toys etc.so the house doesn’t look like a bomb has gone off. I’m strict - once they finished playing with the train set - it was tidied into the box before the next thing came out. Saves a massive muddle of stuff all over the house and things don’t get lost.

Don’t beat yourself up if they watch a bit of tv… if it keeps you all sane and allows you to breathe / cook / paint your nails / do whatever job you need or want to do it’s fine. Unless that is all they are doing - it is not a crime to watch a few Disney movies or episodes of pepper pig on their holiday! Let them have a bit of down time and don’t feel bad for that!

6 weeks is a long time to fill but if you plan little ‘events’ and pace yourself you’ll get through it.

connemarailoveyou · 24/07/2024 07:00

@Aliceberrypie I have got activities planned but I'm still anxious that there might be at least 3 days out of 7 per week where due to money or weather it'll be tv a lot

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Scarletttulips · 24/07/2024 07:08

Get a lot of boxes and bottles tops paint and paper and let them creat something.
build a den of cushions and blankets - some of the best days
Create a play or dance routine.
Di a treasure hunt and then let them make one.
We built the largest rocket ship with paper mache! Took weeks!
Try a museum it’s free
library once a week - see when kids sessions are on - they usually do games mornings or colouring competitions -
Family centers might to trips cheaply - keep a look oit.
Het some phonics cards and play games with them - it can help so each as you focus on sounds
Make some water play or chalk in the garden - give them instructions - draw a flying bat - a flower - a frog etc
Draw a hopscotch - and teach them how to play

Get a diary and put in weekly
library
friend meet up
swimming

walk into town
movie afternoon and popcorn
even clean their room can be fun for little ones
Park with ice cream
different park with picnic
Family center
Games afternoon

then build in everything else.

Feels better when you’re in control of some of it.

Tbskejue · 24/07/2024 07:08

You’re not alone. Ive created a schedule for each week with what we’re doing each day written on it - ie park, library, chill out day, day out etc. Even when they can’t read you can show it to them and explain what you’re doing; it helps me as well and makes me feel less guilty if we do have a few screen filled days as I know that it’s not all the time

CelesteCunningham · 24/07/2024 07:12

Are you a SAHP? I'd find it very long too if so, mine are the same ages (although I do find the English summer holidays very short for the kids, it's 8 or 9 weeks here).

Personally I'm very strict about screen time during term but relax a lot over the summer - it's important they have downtime too and you want them rested come September, no point starting the year tired.

Honourspren · 24/07/2024 07:21

They're still quite easy to entertain screen-free at that age.

And it doesn't even have to be something different every time. Weekly is just fine for many things like swimming, park, cooking/ baking, library etc.

Ensure you plan in enough downtime for them - and for you.

Hobbitfeet32 · 24/07/2024 07:29

Do you have a partner? Are they taking some leave as well?
Kids don’t need to have activities scheduled and planned out all the time. Being a bit bored can be good. You can encourage them to play independently whilst you have some downtime, a brew etc. tell them if they are bored that you have some jobs for them to do.

Also I would try to include some activities that you like doing. So they learn that everyone in the family is valued and so you get to do some things you enjoy.

Aliceberrypie · 24/07/2024 07:30

connemarailoveyou · 24/07/2024 07:00

@Aliceberrypie I have got activities planned but I'm still anxious that there might be at least 3 days out of 7 per week where due to money or weather it'll be tv a lot

If it is - so be it. You do what you can to get through it.

we all think everyone else is busy doing super enriching activities 24/7 they are exciting and educational and expensive - but the reality of life is you do what you can with the resources (both time and money) that you have.

I bet your kids will have a lovely summer - don’t let the mummy guilt take over. TV will not kill them and I’m sure it will just be part of their summer holidays.

Loads of lovely suggestions up thread for free /minimal cost - try not to worry - you will get through it!

Frozenicicle · 24/07/2024 07:31

Are you balancing work as well? If so that is indeed hell. If not then just don't put so much pressure on yourself.

Inspirationfailure · 24/07/2024 07:51

Try and carve out some time for you to recharge, so you can keep going. So, if you have a partner, take a half day (or even a day) each to yourselves each weekend to recharge while the other one looks after the kids. And then book in a daytime date together when the kids are back at school in September.

Tagyoureit · 24/07/2024 11:08

Following this with interest as mine are 4 and 10 so it's difficult to get them on board with the same things. I've planned this week so far!
But 3 hours in, happy to report that no one has died yet! 😃

connemarailoveyou · 24/07/2024 20:53

Thanks for all replies

Yes I'm a sahp and yes I have a partner, he doesn't have time booked off work apart from when we go away for a week, because he's self employed so like this week hasn't been super busy so he's had a few half days etc so I won't ask him to book time off unless urgent

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