I'm currently 4 months pregnant and for about 2 months my partner has been talking about relocating. I currently have my own apartment and I live near my family. I have told my partner that I do not want to move out of state but he keeps being up reasons as to why we should. All of his reasons are because he wants me away from my family. Now my family is not as bad as he tries to make it seem. If I'm in a position to help I help my mother, brother or sister and he thinks relocating would stop them from asking for help.
I do not mind helping and it's never anything big. Maybe someone needs a ride to work, or wants to use my laundry room because theirs is not working. These things do not bother me and I also live alone. He only comes down to visit. So I don't understand why he gets so irritated when I have family or friends come over. Where he wants us to move is closer to his job which is understandable but I would be relocating from my job to a different area which is not that difficult. But we'll be closer to his family who I do not talk to that often. So there will be many times I may have to call his mother to help instead of my own. His mother treats him like a child and I will not and because I have told her that she doesn't talk to me.
I don't want to call someone who doesn't speak to me to help when I close to my family who will not complied I need help. I have asked him if he can relocate to the city I'm in and he simply does not want to do it. This is something we need to be on the same page about. And what's crazy is before we found out we were pregnant the plan was to move in my city now he wants to do something different and when I voice my opinion he brushes it off.
I don't want to move I'm away from my family. And I don't want to go through with this pregnancy without my family. Since I told my family they have been nothing but supportive he has not even said a word to his family.