My DH has form for making big plans/ decisions about our home without telling me.
It started off with him putting up outside CCTV without telling me. He bought a massive TV without running it past me. Choose some bathroom tiles on his own. So started off with minor things.
Then 2 years ago he made huge plans for a big extension we don’t need without talking to me about it first. He went as far as getting an architect round and quotes, & then raised it with me after that. He’d been planning it for months & even mentioned to our DC about “getting a bigger bedroom” before I was aware of his plans.
Recently we’ve had some guy coming round giving quotes for new windows- news to me!
Last week he showed me a picture of a type vintage vehicle he’s been hankering after for years. I’ve always said I was ok with him getting one at some point in the future, as long as he sorted the garage out first for it to be stored- which he hadn’t done, which I clearly pointed out to him. Next thing I know he bought it!!! Made plans to travel across the country to pick it up and he dropped that one the night before he went. I’ve just had enough.
how would you deal with this? Am I overreacting by being really pissed off with it? We own the house together btw. Both work FT, his income is huge compared to mine.