We’ve had a hard five years with twins being born, an older child needing a lot of support, older parents needing help and one of the children being diagnosed with autism. Then needing to get an EHCP for him on top of us both working in demanding jobs. We also have very little family support.
Our children are now 8 and 5.
Our child with autism has started a specialist school in reception which has been good for him but lots of logistical issues with drop offs for the other two children.
He is also very high maintenance and needs watching at all times meaning it’s impossible to get a break or to spend any time together.
Anyway, the upshot is that we have both lost who we are and I barely feel like we know eachother anymore. There’s very little affection in our relationship and it feels like we are ships that pass in the night.
Sometimes I just want to divorce as all we do is snap at eachother and it would be easier to be alone even though I know I couldn’t manage without him.
Hes a good dad but feel there’s nothing left to care about me and he probably feels the same way.
I don’t know what to do