How involved are your children's grandparents?
Feeling a bit sad about ours. I'll try to keep it brief but there's lots to it and don't want to be accused of drip feeding.
My parents are both disabled and not very active, my mum does keep in touch. They're both pretty rubbish at getting involved, never been any different, but my mum is a good listener and asks lots of questions so she tends to know more what's going on. I don't really have any expectations of my dad because of the way he is.
My pil seemed to want to be very involved when we first had ds. Fil is a real know it all, and can be quite rude but he kept saying how he wanted to be an involved grandparent and help out and he tried to do lots with ds for the first few years.
Then sil had dc and ds seemed to get dropped. Pil do a lot of childcare for sil which we've never asked for so I suppose this takes up a lot of their time.
So now apart from taking ds out a couple of times a year, usually when they're taking sil children out anyway, they rarely bother.
I was hurt at first but soon got used to it, but what does annoy me is that they show very little interest. I doubt they could say what school ds goes to. If I ever try to tell them updates or things that are going on, mil barely speaks and fil talks over you, that's the way he is. They want to talk about sil children or people we don't even know.
I used to send photos but wouldn't get a response or would just get an uninterested response so I hardly bother now.
Most of my friends and their dc have very involved grandparents who know what's going on in their lives and have a lovely bond and Ds will never have that.
Dh doesn't say much about it or he just says his parents are old and tired but this simply isn't true. They have very active lives I think the novelty has worn off.