Inheritance

[FairviewRosie24]

Hi
I’m 59 in a fairly full on stressful job IT which is quite physical at times which I struggle with due to knees/strength lifting IT kit around etc.
Husband is 10 years younger is a freelance journalist works from home writing, going to conferences etc.
His father has recently passed, estate worth about £750,000. A third of which will go to our daughter (starting uni in September).
I’m still apparently expected to work until I,m 68 which I don't think I physically think I can do, hauling IT kit around site for 20aged users and am on call 24/7. I also have loNg Covid.. However his pension plan says he can retire at 60.
i know Its his fathers legacy and I have no entitlement but when my mum died I paid for a Land Rover Discovery for him and improvements to the house.
aibu to say we can let me give up or reduce work considerably.?

Is that after inheritance tax or before? How much of that is from property?

IHT is 40% of anything over £325000 so it may not actually be £750000 in the end.

Why is he an awful man? We have zero information on what he intends to do with the money, whether he said no to OP's request or even whether OP had a conversation with him at all. And suddenly he is a twat based on...what?

Could you not move to a less physical job? IT help desk? Or ask for a change in responsibilties due to disability? At my workplace the people who do the heavy lifting and installing big kit are part of facilities management not IT. The IT help desk people handle things like personal kit such as laptops or provide support for events and meetings like managing the sound, presentations or filming if needed.

We also have IT people who purely work on systems and software - no physical work requried.

What is his plan with the inheritance?
Could you reduce your hours instead?

The obvious answer is that you need to change jobs. There are plenty of jobs in IT that require 0 physical exertion.

Because he's a man? It's mn rules these days!
And if this was reversed it would be 'he's a money grubber! You're mourning the loss of your dad and all he cares about is stopping work?! He's not even 60!!'

Yes this, getting extensive work done to your house and buying an expensive car when you don't have a retirement pot and are 10 years older seems daft.

Is it deeper than that. Is he the one who has been allowed to indulge in his enjoyable job, whilst you are the work trojan bringing in the majority of the household income ?