For blocking him ?

[CleverOpalPanda]

Guy I am talking for 2 months and went on 2 dates left me on read last nite.
He talked to me first and after I replied he would just send dry responses and he does that frequently so I give cold responses as well but I ask him things to get convo going, he doesn't.
Last nite I asked him if he is busy and he said no just relaxing so then I told him I am sitting around being confused and that he should call me if he can as I want to speak to him.
He saw that text last night and hasnt replied yet .
He is at work now but many times he texts early in morning so I got so upset I blocked him on whatapp.
Am I being unreasonable for blocking him ?it's not been 24 hrs yet.
I don't like that I did it but I feel I am getting played, he talks first and then he responds not in a very productive way.
Only 3 days ago we were being overly flirty and now cold again.

Small clarification:first month we were travelling ,we couldn't meet.
Last date was 3 weeks ago and he texts everyday but I am still confused.

@JLou08
I blocked him only on whatapp not on my phone

His not really bothered is he

What’s confusing you?

@tuvamoodyson
That's he texts me first but as soon as I reply he either leaves me on delivered for hours or he gives some dry replies that don't Initiate any convo.
In past 3 weeks texting everyday he has learned literally zero things about me ,it's only small talk at its best

This is a typical tactic I've been on the receiving end of it's called breadcrumbing it's just enough interaction so that if they are bord or it doesn't work out with first choice you are on standby. I too blocked 🚫

He's not testing you. He doesn't know you after two dates.

If any man wanted to see you he would not be pushing you away as some test after two dates unless something was seriously wrong with him.

This isn't going anywhere. Don't take it personally. Move on. Go online and make another date.

The right man will be keen to see you in person and you won't be worrying about texting styles because the relationship will be moving forward for real, not on a screen. Let this one go. He's not your person. That's ok.

Honestly, dump and move on.

Great advice.

Op - please please please just leave this one alone - he isn't interested. You've got to make yourself free for the great person who is around the corner for you.

He doesn’t sound bothered but you’re demanding he call, being all cryptic and “confused” and then raging and blocking him when he doesn’t respond quickly enough for you.

He’s not interested. Don’t waste any more time on him. If he was interested in a relationship with you, you’d know.

1. it shouldn't be this hard this early
2. telling him you were "sitting around being confused" and expecting him to ask why is extremely cringeworthy
3. swearing on his child's life is a red flag for me - did you ask him to swear on her life? It's dodgy AF and nobody should be swearing on their child's life
4. you both sound immature for 40+ year olds
5. main one : HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Save yourself the heartache and give it up.

Agree, if someone asked me what I was doing, then told me I had to call them (presumably they’re perfectly capable of calling me if they want to), because they ‘needed to talk to me’, I’d leave it on read too. Far too much stress to be dealing with when it’s clearly very casual.

He said he wants a relationship, I am special and he swore on his daughters he is not talking to other women

But you've only been out with him twice FFS.

Also, any man who swears on someone's life about anything at all is a walking red flag.

It's an infantile thing to say.

OP this man has little interest in you. Stop analysing everything and move on.

Sounds very like someone I used to date. All over me at the start then hard to have a conversation with, I felt he went hot and cold with me and I would have tried asking questions while getting 1 word answers. I then started playing him at his own game being cold and disinterested. His name doesn't start with W does it?

Ugh this reminds me of someone who “hooked” me in years ago. He would send flirty messages, suggesting meeting up/taking me somewhere lovely and then I would reply and he wouldn’t respond! His unpredictability and inconsistency actually kept me interested (it’s called intermittent reinforcement, the most addictive thing, a bit like slot machines!) and I kept on hoping and trying… it was exhausting!
This chap has said that he does not like “possessiveness” OP, do you really want to keep playing these games and second guessing him for weeks/months/years to come?
If I were you, I would leave the game; get rid of his details; remind yourself how you are great just as you are and open the door to meeting someone who values you and leaves you feeling secure. It’s what I WISH I had done! Good luck

If this relationship was right it wouldn't leave you feeling how you feel.
You did the right thing.
Next!

YANBU. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no. He’s playing games, seeing what you’ll put up with, and trying to make you chase him/act crazy/give him an emotional response etc. My ex used to behave exactly like this.

Keep him blocked, give him nothing and move on. With the right person, it wouldn’t be this hard.