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AIBU?

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To want my partner to take the lead on dinner every now and then?

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 22/07/2024 11:33

Those of you with partners - how often do they make dinner? More specifically, a dinner they have chosen to make?

My partner will, on occasion, make a dinner I have requested, after I have meal planned for the week. So, week in, week out, I am the one planning the meals - and trying to keep things interesting, yet still within the parameters of what our 2 children will also eat, doing the shop, and then cooking the vast majority of meals. I don't enjoy cooking, I don't enjoy thinking of meals, but that's life. Needs must.

I have said to my partner numerous times that I would like it if before I do the shop, he would come to me with a list of ingredients that he needs to cook a meal of his choice for the 4 of us. Basically, I just want a little break from this chore and for him to pick up the slack every now and then. As of yet, it hasn't happened.

To make matters worse, he wants to invite his parents around for dinner more frequently. I said I don't enjoy cooking for others, so he said he'd do it. Which just screams to me that he would be willing to make the effort that I have asked him for if his parents are involved, but not just for me. To me, that's not the break I have asked for. That's actually adding on to my plate because all of a sudden, I'm hosting.

AIBU to be hugely pissed off at this?

OP posts:
Caroparo52 · 19/10/2024 22:36

DH... on #Wednesday when your parents are dining with us please make sure you choose the recipie then buy and then cook the meal-

Shudacudawuda · 19/10/2024 22:52

YANBU at all.
Its roughly 50/50 with me and DH, although it didn't always used to be. I used to very much take the lead with the food shop, meal planning, list writing and cooking, until like you I was absolutely sick of it! He now often does the full weekly list, shop, and meal plan himself and we'll share the cooking.
I have to be honest, despite being happy not to have to do it, it took me a while to let go. He sometimes wouldn't buy the usual brands, or plan meals the kids didn't like etc.... But he's done it enough now to know what I know and its great to have a week off from it.
I feel your pain. I basically had to stop doing it to make him step up but he really has and its so much better. Good luck.

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