So my main issue is with the female members of my husbands family, his mother and sister. So my ds is almost a year old now but in the first early months he was a typical newborn and my husband and I were typical sleep deprived new parents, while on paternity leave we split the care 50/50 and slept in shifts, when he went back to work, (as he starts late and finishes late), when he got home he used to take over for abit so I could have a break/sleep then any wakings after 3am I tuck over again, so he could get enough sleep for work, and that just worked for us during the newborn stage. So anyway back then, we were visiting his parents and it was all fine until we were leaving soon so my husband went upstairs to use the toilet, and then, after he had left the room my MIL asked me if husband was getting anymore sleep now, not me, just specifically him, so I just responded that he just takes over for bit when he comes home from work but he still gets plenty of sleep during the night, as I take over and he gets a lay in as he starts late. I thought it was a strange question so I asked my husband about it on the way home, he said he didn't know why she asked me that but thought it was just a normal thing to ask me, I thought it would be if she was just asking are we both getting more sleep now, or is ds sleeping better now, but she just asked about him. Another example would be my husband had started a new job but was annoyed about one of the bosses who he complained about often and I heard him complaining to them on the phone about it, to which I had already told him to just ignore him and just don't worry about work when he's on his days off, I heard them both say pretty much exactly the same, don't worry about it too much. A few days later my MIL was around and mentioned his boss he was annoyed at to me while my husband yet again, was not in the room, and I said, 'yes I just told him to not stress too much about it and enjoy the weekend', to which MIL suddenly responded mardily, 'yeah well, easier said then done that isn't it', to which I was abit taken back and thought, what a hypocrite. Of course MIL has had other instances like this over the years but I would be going on and on, so one thing his sister has done that really annoyed me - bit of context first, all his siblings have pretty strong personalities and when they all get together they are very loud, not leaving much room for anyone else, and I'm the only partner so feel abit of an outcast sometimes, so, his sister invited us to go to her house just for a meet up with everyone, when I was about 30ish weeks pregnant with ds, we were free that day so just said yes we'll come. We went and all was fine, end of story until much after that I was told his sister asked my husband a few days before the said meet up if I was going to be coming too, to which he said yes, then apperently she asked him if he could just come, when he asked why she said well she just never seems that interested in the past at these things so what's the point in her coming really, he apperently said, well she's just not as loud as you guys that's all. I just couldn't belive she even tried to get my husband to ditch his pregnant wife at home all day on his day off and exclude me from a family meetup, there have been times like this before where the siblings have made me feel excluded aswel. So just wanted thoughts on this, am I just massively overthinking? Sorry for long post.