To ask for funeral reading help

[thanksforthememoriesdad]

My lovely lovely step dad has died and I will be speaking at the funeral. The celebrant is covering a lot of it including nice stories of how he was around for me amdy younger sister.

I would like my bit to be a poem or reading about how he was a father to us despite not being a blood relation. Don't want to take digs in the service at bio dad who is still alive even if it's tempting.

I can't find anything suitable and are hoping the Mumsnet hive mind can find some good ones.

Sorry for you loss. And what a lovely thing to do for your step dad. Sounds like you’re very caring to all concerned.

You could try ChatGPT. Asking for a poem to read at a funeral and add the specifics you mention. Chat GPT is pretty good at stuff like that.

I agree with chat gpt.
I typed in "funeral reading for lovely step father" and got this.

Here's a heartfelt and sincere funeral reading for a beloved stepfather:

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Ladies and Gentlemen,

We gather here today to honor and celebrate the life of a remarkable man, [Stepfather's Name]. Though not connected to us by blood, [Stepfather's Name] chose to be a part of our lives, embracing us with love, wisdom, and unwavering support.

[Stepfather's Name] was a person of great integrity and kindness. He stepped into a role that not everyone can fulfill with such grace and compassion. From the very beginning, he showed us that family is not defined solely by genetics, but by the bonds we build and the love we share.

He was a steadfast presence in our lives, always ready with a listening ear, a comforting word, or a helping hand. His generosity knew no bounds, and his patience was a testament to his deep understanding and empathy. [Stepfather's Name] taught us many valuable lessons – the importance of hard work, the strength found in kindness, and the beauty of unconditional love.

His laughter was infectious, his wisdom profound, and his love, boundless. He had an incredible ability to make us feel seen and valued, fostering a sense of belonging that we will forever cherish. [Stepfather's Name] may not have been our biological father, but in every way that truly matters, he was our Dad.

As we reflect on the memories we shared, we find comfort in knowing that his spirit lives on in each of us. We see his influence in our actions, hear his voice in our hearts, and feel his love in the connections we maintain with one another.

Though we mourn his passing, we celebrate his life – a life that enriched ours in countless ways. We are grateful for the time we had with him and the indelible mark he left on our hearts.

In closing, let us remember [Stepfather's Name] not with sadness, but with the gratitude and joy he brought into our lives. May we carry forward his legacy of love, kindness, and integrity, keeping his memory alive in all that we do.

Thank you.

This reading can be personalized further with specific memories and anecdotes that reflect the unique relationship shared with your stepfather.

Don't know why it's all crossed out

Do people really use chat GP to write eulogies? It took me 5 days to write and refine my eulogy for my dad, I can’t imagine it being drafted by AI but each to their own. I think a poem about step dads would be nice, I’d search google or do you have a friend who likes to write poetry? One of my childhood friends wrote a lovely poem about my dad when he passed, so personal and summed him up to a tee

@thanksforthememoriesdad

Sending my condolences, I recently lost my brother and found comfort in writing after he passed and it turned out I enjoy writing in rhyme, so I wrote a poem for him which I read at his service.

I have since written poems for friends for various occasions and would like to offer my services to you. If you are interested I would just need a little information about your situation with him so feel free to message me and see what we can come up with!

@thanksforthememoriesdad this is quite lovely 🌹

https://notallwomenarethesame.wordpress.com/2015/07/04/he-is-gone-a-poem-by-david-harkins/

many ideas here too
https://humanist.org.uk/helenvanrijs/wp-content/uploads/sites/607/2022/06/Poems-suitable-for-Funerals.pdf

Do people really use chat GP to write eulogies? It took me 5 days to write and refine my eulogy for my dad,

I don't know. I was merely suggesting it.

I've used it for writing letters and for work reports.
IMO the language is always a bit too flowery for my taste but it's a good starting point re structure and topics to cover so I make it more my own rather than using it verbatim.

It's much quicker.

Euurgh do NOT use AI.

Can you and your sister have a go at writing a really personal tribute? Start with one or two short memories and build it out from there.Finish it with a short 3 or 4 line memorial verse. Ask for help from family members who knew your step dad personally.

Thanks all. The main eulogy is being delivered by the celebrant and we've made sure there are lots great stories and personal memories in there. I'm worried I'd choke up on the day and would prefer to read something written by others. Will look at the links shared above, thank you