People arriving late

[Westside1]

Yesterday we had an end of term concert for my daughter, we were told to arrive at 9.50 as it started at 10. I took the day annual leave and was in the hall at 9.50, we all stood along by walls. At about 10.10 another parent arrived sqeezed in between me and another parent leaving us really uncomfortable space wise and then proceeded to spill his coffee over my top and jeans which happened to be new. He apologised and I said it was hardly surprising as the space was so small. I didn’t want to cause a scene but it ruined the morning for me. Why are some people so selfish.

So you didn't want to challenge the antagonist, so you came here to tell us and ask why some are disrespectful?
Yes, that's the way to change society's bahavious/beliefs/norms, moan on a forum for parents

I'd say the issue is him being socially unaware, rather than selfish.

I do understand you being annoyed, I would be too if I got coffee spilled on me. But I guess he didn't know he was going to be packed in either - as you acknowledged, it sounds like the hall wasn't an appropriate venue and next year you either need to get there at 9.30 to get a seat or suggest to the organiser it needs to be ticketed 2 per child or something.

Kids concerts are a nightmare with everyone, their gran and 6 siblings attending. I hope you still got to enjoy the performance.

I didn’t want to cause a scene. Just having a rant I guess, sorry is that not allowed?

How far in advance did you book your annual leave?
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@Westside1 have you never had an accident?

Yes it's annoying to have coffee spilled over you, especially on new clothes.

But that's nothing to do with him being late. If there wasn't enough space for everyone then it wouldn't matter if everyone arrived 30 mins early.

Not everyone has the luxury of taking a half day of annual leave for these events.

Sounds like the school is at fault for not holding the concert in a venue with sufficient space, or not limiting the number of attendees per child. I would complain. As for late bloke, I’d be pissed off at the coffee too but he probably didn’t expect an inappropriate venue and everyone squeezed in like sardines.

Sorry I should have been clearer, the annual leave is a bit irrelevant, I booked it ages ago. There was plenty of other space for parents but he just wanted a better view. What annoyed me was we were given a time to arrive which I adhered to and he arrived late, decided to edge in to a space where there clearly wasn’t space, just inconsiderate

I don’t see you’re being unreasonable.

However, some people are always inconsiderate and are not at all bothered if they’re late.

It’s always the same parents who are late to drop off and pick up, every day, that will then be late for that special concert, assembly, sports day, whatever event.

Most people would be embarrassed creeping into a packed hall but they waltz in with their coffee and expect everyone else to move and accommodate them.