Sorry to hi-jack this thread.
I didn’t fall out with my friend, I didn’t put enough effort in to keeping in touch and I have been wishing that I could get in touch with her for thirty years.
We used to work in slightly different departments in the same “creative” company in London and then we used to live together in a shared house not far from Hammersmith.
She had grown up in a Commonwealth country. And here’s a clue: she briefly attended the same school as the boxer Lennox Lewis.
She kindly came to my wedding and then I moved to a European country and we lost touch.
It was my fault because I neglected to stay in touch after I moved as it was all a bit overwhelming and I deeply, deeply regret this.
But pretty soon after that, I heard the news that she was pregnant and had moved to Ireland.
Anyway, I managed to trace her last address in London, and got in touch with the estate agents who were responsible for leasing the flat she had last been living in, and they said they couldn’t give out her address but if I sent a letter they would forward it to her. So I immediately wrote a five-page letter and sent it off straightaway but never heard back from either the estate agent or from my friend.
So she may now be living in Ireland and has a son who is approximately thirty years old. Or she may be back in the UK or in her Commonwealth country, or somewhere else completely.
My friend was such a lovely person and I deeply regret not remaining in contact. She was calm and thoughtful, funny, athletic, and had great independence and strength about her. But looking back, from a perspective of thirty years, she must also have felt quite alone in London.
Just to add a last clue in case she is reading: her wedding present was really unusual. She knew that my husband and I loved cooking, and she had gone to great lengths to gather together lots of really good quality kitchen implements like whisks and ladles, and she even had a friend of hers whittle us a pair of wooden salad servers with our initials on them. And bar one item, we are still using all of those implements today!
I just can’t find my friend. I’ve asked mutual friends over the years but no one knows what happened to her. She has quite an unusual name and I have searched all over social media. And in people finding apps and on-line telephone directories in three different countries.
If you are out there and know who you are DZ, please can you forgive me, and please can you get in touch?
Op I hope you can re-connect with your friend too. You are lucky to have a mutual
friend who will mediate a bit. Three years is nothing in the scheme of things! I hope it works out for you both.