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Every since I asked my neighbour to be quiet....

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Shinglessos · 19/07/2024 20:26

....he has taken it upon himself to make my life a misery. Thankfully I am only here very temporarily (no more than 6 more months left).

To set the scene, we live in a row of terraced houses. The gardens all have picket fences and are tiny. There is NO privacy. We have 2 young children, as do many of the people living here.

The neighbour is a guy about 30 years old. He has a dog that barks literally all day. He is usually asleep, so the dog carries on for hours and hours. Pretty much every evening he has friends over who sit in the garden talking loudly, playing music and the dog of course doesn't stop barking.

My children's bedroom overlooks the garden. For month after month they are disturbed by him since we've been here. It is constant, not even a one off big party, just constant selfishness.

2 weeks ago, at 8pm he brought his speaker into the garden and played his music very loudly. His dog was barking mentally. I went out and politely asked him to turn it down as his noise is constant and my children really need to sleep. The houses are very similar to a holiday chalet in that you literally are on top of each other.

Now, every single time I'm in the garden even hanging out washing, or watering my baskets (never making a noise), he shouts at me to keep the noise down. It is relentless. I honestly feel totally bullied. He loudly slags me off to his mates calling me 'the fat bitch over the fence'. If my kids giggle or chat in the garden quietly, he shouts at them to be quiet too. He does it most when he has friends round and really thinks he's funny.

I have ignored him. I've looked at him and told him to stop.

But he will not.

I'm a single mum. Luckily I work full time and am out of the house all day. I am in the middle of buying a house. Other neighbours loathe him but as I'm the only one renting, most people try and keep the peace with him

What should I do?

OP posts:
Sunshineafterthehail · 19/07/2024 20:28

Report his ddog to the council.. Every day if necessary.. If he is abusive report him to the police..

urbanbuddha · 19/07/2024 20:30

Get in touch with environmental health at your local council, and start keeping a diary.
They'll deal with the noise.

Now, every single time I'm in the garden even hanging out washing, or watering my baskets (never making a noise), he shouts at me to keep the noise down. It is relentless. I honestly feel totally bullied. He loudly slags me off to his mates calling me 'the fat bitch over the fence'. If my kids giggle or chat in the garden quietly, he shouts at them to be quiet too. He does it most when he has friends round and really thinks he's funny.

It’s harassment - you need to report it to the police.

PassingStranger · 19/07/2024 20:30

We had this. Complained about something antisocial that was going on. They got spoken too and then decided to throw Stones over the fence when they knew we were in the garden.

As thus was so dangerous we complained again. Think they got visited again.
They still carried on occassionally but it's largely died down now.
Some people are just arsholes.
They have no respect and they don't like being called out.

Goldengirl123 · 19/07/2024 20:51

I don’t think there is anything you can do really, he sounds like a horrible selfish person. The sooner you move, the better

Arlott · 19/07/2024 20:54

I would just keep the joy that you are moving soon inside you! Imagine being the other neighbours, stuck with him for the foreseeable future. Grim

Ghostlyfeet · 19/07/2024 20:58

Report him to the local council- it's antisocial behaviour. Also look on the website asbhelp they will have advice/ help

Americano75 · 19/07/2024 21:00

Report the prick to the council and the police. What a dickhead.

amicissimma · 20/07/2024 12:00

I have found that playing white noise helps reduce the effect of external noise. It takes me a while to find the optimum volume to mask the annoying sounds without being intrusive itself. It might help, specially for the DC.

Other than that, count off the days until you leave!

Maryamlouise · 20/07/2024 12:27

Had this with a neighbour and had a nightmare trying to get anywhere with the council but yours might be better. I would report to them anyway and keep a diary (time, what the noise was, the impact) and also phone 101 lots to generate a police record and to record the harassment. I would let landlord know as well but there will be little the landlord can do as actually all the complaints need to be recorded at the time which only you can do as you live there. Still the diary might be helpful for landlord if they carry on with next people and landlord could take them to court with enough evidence

Riapia · 20/07/2024 13:12

Get some wind chimes. Sure to piss anybody off.

LouOver · 20/07/2024 13:16

As your renting and don't own, there's no risk to your property value to recording him for nuisance. I actually think you can log this with 111 as he's using threatening behaviour and you have a right to a peaceful life.

For his parties call the police, get it logged and I would also inform your landlord that its getting so bad that this has to be done which means he'll have problems for any future tenants (but I wouldn't do that until you are absolutely ready to go)

tallcurvey · 20/07/2024 13:27

@Shinglessos

people are assholes

my neighbours think it’s fine to make noise every day.
i do one night they go bonkers

most people are hypocrites and crap.

PassingStranger · 20/07/2024 14:37

Ghostlyfeet · 19/07/2024 20:58

Report him to the local council- it's antisocial behaviour. Also look on the website asbhelp they will have advice/ help

Dosent mean they will stop. It's not necessarily true that reporting helps. See my post.

Just be thankfully it's temporary. Many people have to live amongst inconsiderate and rude neighbours every day.

Dayoldbag · 20/07/2024 14:40

Absolutely a police matter.
Threatening and harassment.
Keep reporting to the police, landlord, council....ring every day.
Make a nuisance of yourself.

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