I think I will say that it's probably a bit late in the day now to raise with the school (last day of term and all) but would likely be something I'd be keeping on my radar for the return.
DD is in reception in primary school and shares a playground with nursery, reception, Y1 and Y2. There have been two incidents in the space of a week of two different boys in Y1 hitting her. The first time, she said she was quite upset and her friend got the teacher. The second, she said the other boy just came up to her and friends and hit her on the back with a big muddy stick. Her cardigan was caked in mud - she didn't have any marks on her body and didn't say she'd been upset this time. Her best friend was also hit, although confirmed DD beared the brunt of it.
I'm not precious about reports of hitting and squabbles in school (within reason), so I wouldn't ask for a discussion with the teacher every time she reports she's been hit or upset by someone. Kids are learning to be friends/not friends etc.
But what's upset me is that both times, my daughter has said "oh the boy doesn't understand, it's not his fault". I'm taking this to be something she's heard from the teachers and so I'm assuming that potentially, these boys are in the spectrum. And she says it in such a way that she is accepting being hit. She was also told by the teacher to move away from the boy on the second incident, even though he had approached them.
WIBU to ask for a discussion with the school regarding this approach? For clarity, I'm not looking/expecting to have these boys punished - if they are on the spectrum, I understand it's not as clear cut BUT I do expect teachers to be appropriately communicating that, despite issues others may have, it's never okay to hit (which I really feel like hasn't been done).