Split with ex 3 years ago and have 2 dc 6 and 7. Initially he started off having the children every fortnight Friday night through Sunday evening and then alternative Wednesdays. This has dwindled and dwindled over the years up until the point where cms has taken money out of his wage (after 2k arrears) and he has claimed that due to the mental strain that I have put on him he cannot have them overnight anymore and has now taken up the tendency to visit once every 2 weeks or so for an hour or 2 at a time with no more than a day or twos notice. If he has seen them for any longer then it has been suggested by me. If I speak to him and tell him that his behaviour is detrimentally affecting our children then he will claim that I am a vile abuser and am negatively impacting his mental health. The last time he had our children I suggested that they go out for approx 5 hours but on the day he told me it would be around 2 and then later texted to say that I needed to sort them dinner when he had told me he was taking them out for food and my eldest had been telling me all about the fact that he was going to eat with his dad. I have tried to contact through mediation to no avail and am in an extremely low income situation so cannot afford court in the slightest. I’m at the point now where I’m considering stopping all contact and letting him make the first legal move as I feel like my children fee abandoned and it’s negatively impacting them.