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worrywanda · 18/07/2024 19:09

There is a dispute ongoing between my old neighbours, ‘Claire’ and ‘Bob’. We moved house two weeks ago. Claire I used to talk to every now and then. She posted a status on Facebook about it (she is that kind of person who posts everything) so since I like her I sent her a message to see if she was ok. This was maybe a week ago. She told me Bob was unhappy with something. I sympathised (briefly) and just said, hope you’re ok, don’t let it get to you.

I’m regretting ever asking what was wrong now. She has messaged me tonight trying to involve me in it, asking me if I’d told any other neighbours or Bob about her status as he and his mates were sending her messages calling her names and threatening her.

She has then sent me screenshots of aggressive and threatening messages from Bob. I’ve told her I’ve not spoken to any of them since I moved (which is true!!) and then she has said, okay, but I’m calling the police re Bob as I’m not being threatened. I just replied with ‘hope you’re ok xx’

I guess I don’t want her messaging Bob and asking him if he’d heard from me that was she gossiping about him. I don’t want my name involving at all. I never really said anything more than hello to Bob anyway, but a quick skim of these messages is really quite frightening and he doesn’t seem like a nice person

I’m in no way involved, am I? None of them know our new address and we’ve moved 4 miles away to a different suburb. Sorry if it sounds stupid but I just have anxiety and no time for drama in my life, which is why I usually stay well out of these things!!

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worrywanda · 18/07/2024 19:10

To add - it became not the nicest of areas hence why we moved.

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NotTerfNorCis · 18/07/2024 19:13

You should be fine. You're out of there. Anyway it sounds like she won't be asking Bob anything if he's so aggressive. And so what if she does.

worrywanda · 18/07/2024 19:17

NotTerfNorCis · 18/07/2024 19:13

You should be fine. You're out of there. Anyway it sounds like she won't be asking Bob anything if he's so aggressive. And so what if she does.

That is true. I think she’s got into a back and forth with him and wants advice from me but I’m not prepared to involve myself, I have no interest in the situation and wouldn’t take sides. I won’t be seeing any of these people again! Somehow I’m worried Bob will be annoyed at me. But I don’t know how or why he would be

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WLGYLMLAAG · 18/07/2024 19:23

You are unlikely to get caught up in it because it sounds more like Claire was panicking that you told Bob about her Facebook status. In other words the assumption being that you are more team Bob, so she’s very unlikely to say anything to him herself.
You are out of that area now, I think I would unfriend Claire on Facebook, if you weren't that close anyway, and draw a line under it all, and move on in your new home.
Its their drama.

worrywanda · 18/07/2024 19:29

WLGYLMLAAG · 18/07/2024 19:23

You are unlikely to get caught up in it because it sounds more like Claire was panicking that you told Bob about her Facebook status. In other words the assumption being that you are more team Bob, so she’s very unlikely to say anything to him herself.
You are out of that area now, I think I would unfriend Claire on Facebook, if you weren't that close anyway, and draw a line under it all, and move on in your new home.
Its their drama.

That’s true, I didn’t see things that way. I think that’s good advice thank you

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quickoffthemark · 18/07/2024 19:47

block them 🤷

worrywanda · 18/07/2024 20:14

quickoffthemark · 18/07/2024 19:47

block them 🤷

Who? The one that’s not nice? They’ve not messaged me at all, never have

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