To think I’ll close this WhatsApp group

[Flowersgardening]

I’m admin for a WhatsApp group- only about 5 or 6 members. All old friends.
Now and again I put on about an event I’m going to and say - if anyone wants to join me?
Thinking of closing down the group- I’ll just put something lighthearted- along the lines of if we want to meet we can go back to texting or old style WhatsApp messages.
Just find it quite ignorant when no one responds. Even a ‘no I can’t’ would be appreciated but it makes you feel silly if you put something up and no one answers.
Of course they don’t have to, but if it was me I would.
110% sure no problem with the friendships as we are all old friends who get on very well.
My guess would be a couple in the group have split up but that’s only a guess and still wouldn’t stop them replying.
I don’t put an event on overly often so just find it a little rude to just have silence.
Think I’ll close it down soon but keep the message lighthearted as above.
What do you think? Thanks!

Don’t close the group or make an announcement. That’s flouncing and there will probably be another WhatsApp group made with memes about you flouncing. Just let the group fizzle.

lol

There is no way to close a Whatsapp group even as admin, you can only leave yourself?

A "light-hearted" announcement is the very definition of passive aggressive. You want to make a point, but can't be assertive about it so you do it passively under the guise of light hearted. It's an asshole way to communicate.

WhatsApp groups don't require any kind of self appointed announcer or controller.

Just ignore the group if it isn't useful. It'll disappear from your relevant threads/groups anyway.

Or if you want to comment say something grown up and adult, to the actual point. But what is your actual point? That no one responds to your messages? "I'm not sure if anyone is reading or interested in the events I post here. Should I stop?" I mean, it seems like all you need to do is let the group die.

I'm in quite a few of these groups. TBH if you want the events to actually happen, you need to speak separately to the person most likely to say yes and then post "me and Jane are going...who wants to join us". No one ever wants to be first to show interest and/or they want to know who else is going.

Just stop posting on it. No announcement needed.

I do like the statement that the OP is the admin of the group though. Kind of affords it far more importance than it needs.

Really, OP, just stop posting in it.

Just stop posting and archive the group. It’s probably what the others have done so they aren’t even aware of you posting.

That’s what I thought? When the admin leaves, the admin is just assigned to someone else in the group.
Op if you leave - the group will still exist without you.
Just mute it, archive it & don’t post anything.

Be honest, you want them to say something. There's literally no reason to make a passive aggressive comment and leave a WhatsApp group other than you want them to say "oh no please don't go! We're sorry we ignored you!"

If that's the case, honestly grow up and just talk to them. You say these people are your old friends, why can't you just tell them that you're hurt they don't respond to you, even just to say "no thanks"? Why be passive aggressive and petty with a group of people you ostensibly like and have known a long time?

I hate to break this to you, but they've got another WhatsApp group without you that they're merrily messaging away in...

Don’t be silly OP, nobody makes some kind of announcement about the closure of a WhatsApp group, sometimes people just stop using it, its not a big deal (and neither is who is the admin of a group, seriously nobody gives this any thought, it doesn’t mean you’re in charge of it beyond having set it up!)

Just don’t post any messages in it, ignore/mute it whatever but don’t make an announcement, I’m cringing at the thought of it.

They might not even see the messages half the time, I have a bunch of notifications come through together and I often miss the WhatsApp ones. I have 4 different message apps on my phone, not by choice

Im not going to close the group seeing the majority opinion on here.
I’m only the admin as it was me who started the group re a shared hobby prior to Covid- in response to PP above.
There won’t be another group without me- these people I’m talking about just aren’t like that.
Glad I asked for advice as it’s let me view things from a different angle.

I’m only the admin as it was me who started the group re a shared hobby prior to Covid- in response to PP above.

Being the ‘admin’ on a WhatsApp group isn’t really a status meaning you run the group, it’s simply just the fact you started it, it doesn’t mean you’re in charge of it, especially since it’s simply a small group of friends.

I find digital detoxes great for this type of thing. Sometimes, usually at the end of the year, I delete Whatsapp completely. It removes you from all groups. I give a heads up to groups I care about, and not to the ones I don't. Lovely to start the new year after culling people who never reply/are indifferent.

Yeah, archive for now and then delete later if no one messages. But if you don't even know if one couple is still together, and you don't message each other, I'd also look at whether you actually still have a friendship

I wouldn’t bother with an announcement or even close it down. I’d just stop using it.

Just archive the group.

What I tend to do is mention in person about an event, guage interest then set up WhatsApp group specifically to coordinate logistics of said event. You can name the group I.e. Event 2024. Are they paid events? Cost can be an issue. Lack of interest in the event. Sometimes worth joining social groups that specifically run for purpose of type of event.

Another option is arranging cheap meetups - I have a much more organised friend who does an annual party, one birthday dinner, one christmas meetup, and two just because meetups. She started with one then they snowballed into this annual calendar - some come to all, some come to one or two. She is always chatting to us individually in between though.

I don't generally respond on groups to invites out unless I could actually go. If someone messaged on a group WhatsApp and I couldn't go I wouldn't say anything.

I agree. Some people are just rude and never respond (unless they then want something from it they somehow can immediately!) I’d just leave the group but not announce anything. But I’m strange and like to have an uncluttered WhatsApp archive!

There won’t be another group without me- these people I’m talking about just aren’t like that.
There will be if you leave the group. The group won’t close, it will carry on without you.

Thanks again for all the input. I’m going to stop posting any events as clearly folk aren’t interested enough.
I like the digital detox idea- just don’t think I’m there yet😁
It is a good point that they aren’t interested enough but if it was me I would just type something like “can’t make it” or “I’m working” or whatever as I’d feel a bit rude not answering - but everyone is different….thanks again folks.

Archive the group

Archive the chat. Don't make an announcement or close it.