DP and I broke up almost a year ago but for the year we have talked and tried on and off to fix stuff. We're long distance which makes it harder (he moved out)
After lots of issues and both of us sleeping with other people when split, hurting each others feelings etc, we came to the decision to try again.
It's been only a few days and we've gone from happy, excited, all the cute stuff to him saying he "isn't feeling excited" anymore, doesn't feel anything. Even when I'm loving to him, he feels numb. I think he may be depressed. He says it's because he's sick of the cycle of feeling happy with me then bad then happy then bad.
We have a lot of stuff to work out clearly. He doesn't want to "always talk about this serious stuff", he wants to have normal general chit chat, talk about our day etc. But I want to fix things so I'll try to talk about the serious stuff and then we clash.
I'm scared to lose him. He says he's not going to leave but he doesn't know what he wants (I'm not sure what he means by that!) he says he doesn't want to lose me but he doesn't want to waste my time. He says he wants to go back to feeling happy and excited.
Neither of us are cheating and we are in a relationship.
I can't see him for a few weeks due to distance and work.
How do I help him feel happy and excited etc again? My flirting and cute stuff isn't reciprocated and he feels empty even when I do that. We talk all the time but it's more like a friend way, just someone to talk to. He tells me he loves me.
Feels like he doesn't want to be with me, but he says he does, and we are together.
I think he may be depressed, he agrees. He says he wants to shake this feeling and go back to being happy we're together again
I'm exhausted.
Any advice?